A guy I was flirting with turned out was and still is married. He's just married for a year, he's wife is 23 and he's already cheating on her. He doesn't just cheat his wife, he lies about his marital status to all the girls he hooks up with.
I know his wife's Myspace profile. Should I anonymously send her a simple message and let her know the case (or at least give her a question mark) or stay out of it?
I'm aware it's not my business even though I'm one of the victims here but I've been hurted by jerkish guys myself a thousand times and I would like to know it if my newly husband is cheating on me. Especially before I have his kids (they have no kids) and when I'm still 23.
He doesn't even use protection when he's having sex. He sleeps with numerous girls and like I said they all think he is single. I think about this subject everytime I login to Myspace. What should I do?
2007-12-02 02:25:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should let her know.I have only been married for 2 years but I would still want to know if my husband was cheating on me.She has a right to know if she is getting cheated on.EVERYONE does.Just think about it this way would you want someone to let you know if your husband was cheating on you?I know I would because I wouldn't want to have his children and then me find out and my children have to go through a divorce and all that drama.Just let her know that you had no clue he was married and when you found out you left him alone.I would tell her everything I know.You wouldn't want to get hurt that way I am sure.It's better she finds out now than later.It'll hurt alot less now than it will after she has his children.Plus just think you said he wasn't using protection what if he ended up getting another woman pregnant and she finds out that way?Try to put yourself in her shoes and that should answer your question.Good luck.
2007-12-02 03:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by crazymoma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Today many couples "cheat" if you want the stats it is about 80% of both men and women cheat. men are slightly ahead of women by about 8%.
What most do not realize is love and sex are two different things. I am sure he most likely loves his wife very much but he still likes a variety in sex. This is what often leads to open marriages and swinging. By the way the divorce rate among swingers is 5% where as with very religious people it is 35%
If you want to take this to the Biblical point of view, and I can give you back up on this, a man, by Old Testament standards, could have sex with any unmarried woman or prostitue he desired. He was not committing adultery. Back then only the woman could committ adultery. The man was guilty of theft of another man's property. If the husband gave permission to his wife or told her to have sex with a certain man she was required to do so or be in very bad trouble.
So there you have it...if you are single or have your husban's permission....he is doing nothing wrong.
2007-12-02 06:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I'm stepping out from the herd here. I would set up a free e-mail account that can't be linked to you and send her an e-mail. Write an apology and explain that you didn't know that he was married and that you broke it off when you found out that he was. The problem with doing it anonymously is that it would probably be just enough to kick up her curiosity, but then she couldn't follow up to get answers. These people who are telling you that she probably knows anyway... then what's the harm in confirming her suspicions? I got a phone call from a girl who my first son's father cheated with and I left that day. I'm very glad that she did it because I didn't feel that suspicions alone were not enough for me to break up our home.
What he's doing is dangerous and it would be horrible to think that she'll only find out when he brings home a VD.
2007-12-02 03:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as an adult and a male, I know that most men will at some time cheat a little. The chance to have sex for a one night stand is like hunting, it makes a male feel like a male.
If I were you, I wouldn't say anything to his wife because you stated "you were flirting" and this could backfire on you in some way. Just dump the idiot!
Hope this helps.
2007-12-02 02:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sgt Big Red 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Boss, being a mature person u shud keep d distance wid dat cheater, as neither u r a moral science teacher nor profet, so don't waiste ur time n mood. Divert ur attention some where else.
2007-12-02 02:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know its hard not to say anything, but what good will it do to tell her, besides wreak her marriage even more. Chances are she won't beleive you anyways. I say leave it alone and be thankfull your not married to the dog.
2007-12-02 02:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry big red there is no such thing a cheating a little. Get tested for HIV asap. Then send her a letter about the situation.She can decide what she can live with.
2007-12-02 06:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by broken heart 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay away, it's none of ur business
if he is cheater, she will discover him very soon without ur help
trust that
2007-12-02 05:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i disagree with moe..wouldnt you like to know if your partner was sleeping around? how many diseases will he bring home?.i say tell her
2007-12-02 03:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she surely already knows
2007-12-02 03:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋