Do you plan on having kids?

Question

how many of you decide never to have children? If you do, what do you think of people that decide not to have children?

Hey, thanks for all your honest asnwers :-)

It's been very interesting and suprising, I didn't know there were so many people that are strong enough to say that they don't want children even though society does kind of pressure us into it.

I don't mind children, I like being an auntie but I don't feel having my own children would add anything to my life. Maybe I'm selfish because I want to spend my time and money on things I want to do, but it would be more selfish to have a child that I dont really want.

Answer 1

I'm not going to have children, I plan on having my tubes tied.

I'm actually against forcing more children into our screwed up world when there are many waiting to be adopted, so if I ever change my mind about wanting children I could never bring myself to have my own biological children anyways.. So adoption would be available.

Answer 2

I decided at an early age not to have children. I was the eldest of 5 kids, and helped take care of the youngest for a number of years, starting at age 9. I already felt like I've helped raise kids, even if I wasn't a parent. I did get pregnant once when I was married, but I miscarried (actually, I had to have an abortion, since it wouldn't spontaneously abort, even though it had died).

I'm very thankful I never had children. I think some people can be productive members of society, but should not have children, and I'm one of those. Some of us have family histories such that I really don't think we should take the risk of trying to raise children, for the good of society! We may be able to do it in spite of our backgrounds, but why take the chance? Morally, I feel I had no choice but to make the decision I did.

Answer 3

I didn't want to have children until I was 30...yet at 24, I had my first and now I'm 27 and we are having out 3rd. I absolutely LOVE being a mom and wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world. My children have been the greatest thing to ever happen to me...I truly feel blessed and humbled by them everyday.

I can respect someone who does not want children, however, being responsible by being on birth control or getting your tube tied/snipped is a billion times better than getting an abortion because of lack of prevention.

Answer 4

I have three sons, I do not plan to have any more, Children are wonderful, they are without a doubt the greatest love in my life, nothing compares to my feelings for my children HOWEVER bringing kids into the world is a personal choice, people should not have more than they can support or nurture so if anyone decides not to have any it is their right.

Answer 5

I hope to adopt. I'd rather have a child who has no hope and give them a nice home and family who loves them then give birth to a child who will never understand the meaning of happiness because their idea of happiness will be having everything given to them. Not that I wouldn't give an adopted child whatever they wanted, I just think that an adopted child would more so appreciate whatever they received.

Answer 6

I have 2. I would rather see women who know that they don't want children to not have them. I respect their decision because raising children is not easy. If it isn't in their hearts to do so then the only person that they will be hurting is the unwanted child.

Answer 7

No, I think children are great and I want to work in a career that invloves kids. I think people who decide to have children should be prepared to be good parents

Answer 8

I don't trust myself to have kids - I didn't grow up in the stablest of family environments - no responsible mother, and a mother makes a big difference to a child's life. Knowing how hard it was for me to have a mother who did not know how to be a mother, I would not want to burden my children with the same fate.

Answer 9

Yes, I love kids. I'd like to have 5. It wouldn't matter if they are adopted or biological. I may prefer to adopt, why add on, when there are already children who need a mother?

Answer 10

I would like to have children but it isn't my main focus (so if it doesn't happen I am happy with life in general). What do I think of people who decide not to have children? I think they are people who really know themselves and don't care what society tells them to want. Strong, independent, and self confident.