what's happening? is sex before marriage now considered as 'normal' for most people, as if nothing's wrong with that? and ... how about having a baby before marriage? is it considered very normal nowadays? i'm really scared ... ... because for me, a girl's virginity should be kept until her marriage! ... and i wonder how could this world turned out like that ... ? or i'm the one who're still old-styled, or fuddy duddy, or whatever!
2007-12-02 00:27:09 · 16 answers · asked by FallenAngelSadako 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i'm really sorry, but i'm not intending to hurt or offense anyone...-.-"
2007-12-02 21:36:17 · update #1
You're not the only one whose still old school. And you've just met one. I'm 16 and still virgin and proud cause I don't have to worry about pregnancy or diseases or anything.
I believe that this sex-before-marriage thing is a widespead epidemic. The rate for STDs are high. Many teens and young adults getting AIDS, HIV, etc. So many girls are getting pregnant, dropping out of school and then not having the right education to get a decent job to pay for there life. Yet they still have money to buy all this brand name crap instead of gas for that car sitting in their drive way.
Teens think it's okay to do sex on the fact that they think they're mature enough to handle the after effects. They think they're well protected when they use condoms and birth-control, but they don't realize that every product out there on the market to keep sex as safe as possible isn't 100% fool-proof.
Personally I feel sorry for every teen out there whose gotten pregnant or has gotten someone else pregnant cause they can never be like they were before. Girls will never have the freedom of staying up late, going to the movies and parties cause they have a child to take care of. Boys will spend 18 years per child paying for child-support if the mother's smart enough to hit them up for it. Those who have diseases have to go to the doctor to get medicine to help relieve or cure their problems, though some will never be the same cause they are stuck with the problem for the rest of their lives.
Majority of the world thinks that sex is nothing but a pleasurable experience nothing else. But the minority, those who save themselves for marriage, believe something very different. They, like me, think sex is not just sex, but with the person you're gonna spend the rest of your life with, sex is a promise to love and make love.
Hope This Helped. :-)
EDIT: I was raised in the church to believe that my body is a temple. I should cherish it and keep it as pure and holy as I can. When you have sex before you're married, you're are disgracing the temple that is within you. They say "do what feels right," "if you love him, go on and do it," Blah Blah Blah. I would never let a man de-flower me (sorry for the medievel term, but it goes along with what I'm saying.) I'm a delicate, rare flower who needs to be nurtured and taken care off in the right environment and my right environment is marriage.
I so happy to meet someone who believes they same thing I do. GOD bless you cause we and so many others like us have found favor in his eyes cause we chose the path unto him.
2007-12-02 07:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~A Musician's Dream~ 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I applaud you. Thank God there are still girls out there with some morals. I was one who was a virgin when I got married and that was over 40 yrs ago. I know what you're thinking, that was the norm. No, it wasn't. girls still had sex before marriage they were just more careful than they are today. Having babies before marriage will never be the norm in the eyes of God. Marriage was intended for that. So stay the way you are and never change. It's women like you that will bring their girls up the same way. I'm not saying other mother's didn't because I sure brought my 3 girls up to wait until they were married and none of them did. All had children before they married and it really burns me up when I hear some pompous a-- blaming the mother if their girls get pregnant before marriage. No matter how much you try to teach a girl morals, they will always do what they want due mostly to peer pressure. So I admire you especially in today's world. God bless you. I believe there are more like you out there.
2007-12-02 01:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Memere RN/BA 7 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I think it has a lot to do with age. I'm not saying that you'll change your ideas, but I know that my views about things are completely different now that I'm 20 instead of 16. Do whatever feels right to you at the time, it's a moral issue and there is no right or wrong decision. If you don't want to have sex certainly don't... if you do then make sure it's with someone really special who treats you like you like a princess and would give you the world if he could.
2007-12-02 03:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO you are NOT old-styled or fuddy duddy! you are correct, one's virginity is a gift if you ask me. something we are born with and cannot be replaced once its gone. it orks me alot to see KIDS these days proud of saying they are no longer virgins. sometimes I just wish we are in the 50s where virginity is sacred and should be kept until marriage. but, who am i to say. it also confuses me why if you walk around and tell ppl you are a virgin, they would assume you to be someone religious or covered from head-to-toe, pastor's daughter or something. why cant they just respect virgins as ppl who have integrity and pride...you STILL can be outgoing and fun but a virgin..there's no shame in that. it's not a question about religion or anything like that, it's the fact that the only reason we have virginity is to lose it AFTER marriage. and if the marriage doesnt work out, some ppl would blame it on the fact they didnt 'do it' b4 marriage. PUH LEEZ...i hate that 'do you buy a car without test-driving?' crap. it's bullshit if you ask me. i'd rather wait doesnt matter how long it takes for me to find the one, my virginity is lost on my wedding night.
and dont think you are old-fashioned or anything. put your head up high and say you're proud to be a virgin!!
good luck and god bless!!
2007-12-02 00:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by anonymously-unknown 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You're right, the media and the gossip at school would have us believe that sex and having children outside of marriage, and even not bothering to get married at all, is now "normal" in our society. However, marriage continues to be a popular choice for many people, who see its benefits.
Good for you for wanting to wait. I regret that I didn't wait myself - even though I lost my virginity to the man I eventually married. For me, having sex too young (19) caused me some problems I could've done without!
2007-12-02 00:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy T 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately this world is sinful and getting more and more immoral. It's really sad. I completely agree! I am a Christian teen and I wouldn't give up my virginity for anything! People like us aren't old-styled, we're doing the right thing and people can say whatever they want about us. They aren't gonna change my mind! Stay there with me sista =)
2007-12-02 02:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not everybody believes that sex should be for marriage only. I do consider it 'normal', yes. I'm 23, and lost my virginity at 18. I am not married, but will continue to have sex with my boyfriend. I chose not to wait until marriage.
There are a lot of people on this forum that say 'oh I'm 13 and I'm waiting until I'm married'. That's fine, but I guarantee that not all of them will do so.
2007-12-02 02:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You're right! I'm 16 and I'm waiting to have sex until I'm married. It's so stupid to do it before because you could get a disease or pregnant. I know that I couldn't handle raising a child yet!
2007-12-02 01:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Anna ♥ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. I wish I would waited but situations don't always play out that way. I was pressured into sex because I din't wanna lose my only friend and boyfriend. I know thats not a excuse but thats what happens to a lot of people. You not old styled your right, as for it normal sadly stats show its becoming normal. sex before high school is sadly a growing trend
2007-12-02 01:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
Ok, those are your views and good for you, but not everyone feels that way and you have to respect that too. I think it's more important that two people love and cherish each other than that they are married. I have a baby and I'm not married...that doesn't make me any less of a mother. I adore my child.
2007-12-02 02:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋