Why do we need manners?

Question

Dont tell me because its good to have manners. I dont want to hear all the social expectations of people (dont fart, burp, chew with your mouth closed, etc) I want to know WHY. why do we have magic words (please, thank you, excuse me) that make everything okay? isnt this slightly ridiculous? why cant humans accept each other in their natural state. why are burps, farts, boogers etc. so gross to everyone? we all do it, but judge others for doing it. it just so idiotic. I am anti- manners. whos with me?

Answer 1

Have you ever read the bible?
In the Genesis it says Eve and Adam ate from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.. before eating from the tree the were naked, and felt no shame about how they were in their natural state.. afterwards they were became conscious of how they and everything and everyone was.. so i think that people should accept each other in their natural state, bacause we're all like that, but i am not anti-manners... and yes, you're right, it is ridiulous, having magic words thet make everything ok... we don't really need manners, and they didn't use to exist, but everyone now uses manners, and who doesnt is judged as rude....

Answer 2

I believe it is a hierarchy thing, a natural order in which the weak are controlled by the strong. This does not mean physical strength, like it does in nature, but strength of character. The only way to get things done in a society is if people help each other. Could you catch a bus if the driver thought it was OK to just drive past and give you the bird? And when you complain to the bus company is it OK if the officer tells you to shut up and stop being such a cry-baby.

No.

Society needs manners because there is always someone higher up the 'food chain' than you. If you remove manners, there is nothing to stop people descending into anarchy.

I agree that some people take manners to a whole different level, but if you are taught strictly you will put into practise at least a little, later in life. If you are taught nothing you will not get very far at all.

So if you don't like manners, go live in the woods by yourself. Burp in the face of a bear and see how far that gets you (down his gullet)!

Answer 3

We need manners because otherwise there would be some pretty ticked off people in the world. If we just suddenly became a manner-less world, think of what would happen to society. It would be in ruins. A simple "please, thank you" makes people more likely to help you in a needy situation. Such as, you are walking down the road and you need directions to the Petnice Co. or something like that. If you ask someone for directions and say, "give me directions to the Petnice Co.," your answer will be either, sorry can't help you, the cold shoulder, or you may get directions but not with good thoughts. The whole booger, fart, burp thing is easy. No one likes to hear, smell or see them.
So, I am Pro-Manners, Thank you.

Answer 4

It's part of communication. We don't communicate only with words - it's also our body language, our tone, the way we choose to act. If you are using good manners then you are showing other people that you respect them and are being considerate of their feelings. If you choose not to use good manners then you are demonstrating, equally strongly, that you don't care what other people think, that you have no respect for them, and are not being considerate of their feelings.

There may be occasions when you wish to do this to make a point. For example if you were a new boss who wished to stamp his authority firmly on the office, you might snap out your orders with no "please and thank you" for the first week or so, to show the staff that they have to do what you tell them even if you DON'T ask nicely. An army seargent yells out his orders for the same reason. He needs total obedience even without politeness.

Farts are gross because they often smell bad. Would you drop your pants and urinate or defecate in front of other people? It's the same principle, just being considerate of others! Boogers are unhygienic because they trap the germs that you inhale.

Answer 5

Sorry friend I am most definitely not with you. Manners are not just pleasant but expedient as well. There is civility in expected modes of behavior. We cannot be a productive society if our daily functioning is constantly being interrupted by the unanticipated. We must come together to determine acceptable modes of dealing with one another. Certainly those change over time and generation and yet the thread that binds us at the top of the gene pool is that we are willing to sacrifice some of our natural inclinations or the public expression of those for the comfort and safety of our fellow human beings.

Answer 6

I so consider you! I used to be on the gasoline stations this morning 6:15 and fueled my automobile up, as I used to be status on the counter to pay a few man at the back of me allow out a gigantic burp. I grew to become round and checked out him, after which and most effective then, whilst he noticed me watching at him, did he say excuse me. I simply proposal what a pig. A lot of individuals simply would not have manners to any extent further. I understand for a proven fact that my husband might certainly not do this even as ready in a line, he is a real gentleman. To unhealthy there are not extra individuals on this global which are.

Answer 7

Manners are a way of showing respect and consideration to others. We have a will and we do things. To not care about how we are affecting others leads to bad social relations. Manners keep things right. Now, there is a difference between being polite and being false. We should show consideration and respect but we shouldn't pretend to be something we're not.

Answer 8

Discover the 90/10 Principle.


It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? ……….By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is “D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!! Enjoy….

Answer 9

Civility.

Answer 10

Well, basically, to separate the animals from humans. You aren't a human just because you're homo sapiens, you know.