In 1989 I joined the Navy and went to Hospital Corpman school. While i was there I met a girl named Lana, We were just friends but we had a great connection. We never made out but the one time we were about to kiss, someone walked in on us. We were at the school for about three months when the Navy sent us in differnt directions, she gave me her mothers address to write her and I put it in my sea bad and I left it at the front desk as I walked her back to her dorm. When I returned i checked for the address she gave me and it was gone. I was never able to find her again until now which is almost 17 years later, but I never forgot her. I am married now and I have her address and phone number and I was wondering should I call and would that be cheating. She showed me how a man is suppose to feel and what it feels like to be respected and loved in a way beyond the physical.What do I do?
2007-12-01 22:13:33 · 8 answers · asked by Reggie M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only an opinion, but if your having this much trouble over just saying "hello heres where my life is after 17 yrs" then you need to admit to yourself theres something lacking in your current relationship and you are possibly looking for something more then just saying hi to an old friend and if this is the case I would not do it because something might happen that should not. and people do change so you might be trying to relive a moment you never got to have with this person and in doing that ruin the life you have made for self now over a memory so I would leave it as a sweet memory and nothing more. Or if you know its not going to last with your wife end it there first and your meant to be with this other person it will work out. Take it slow. like the Garth Brooks song goes "Thank god for unanswered prayers".
2007-12-01 22:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Cindra, my husband asked me could he call an old girlfriend and I said no, you have to look at it from your wife's point of view too and like the young lady above me said..all it takes is a thought and then, an action..and then if you DO go thru with talking to this lady, how will you ever explain it to your wife? If you DO decide to call her anyway, just see how she's doing and keep conversation at a minimum...make sure she knows you're married...honestly, I think you shouldn't call her at all. There's a reason for everything and I think since you couldn't find her contact info almost 17 years ago, I think you should lose it since you found it. You're a grown man and I"m pretty sure you'll make the right decision for you and your wife. ;) Good luck
2007-12-02 01:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an opportunist who's ready to cheat. It all begins with a thought! I can tell you don't care about or love your own wife. Why a gem of a guy you are---embarrassment to the Navy.
2007-12-01 23:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The time has passed for you and her. I wouldn't like my husband looking up someone who "showed him how a man is suppose to feel". It would be disrespectful to your wife and it would be tempting fate. Too many things can start out innocently and end up crossing the line. Don't put yourself in that situation.
2007-12-01 22:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to mention this however you don't precisely recognize what he's doing 24/7. Most of the time whilst any one simply suddenly states they not love you regularly it's due to the fact any one else is within the snapshot.
2016-09-05 18:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it unless your wife is okay with it, which i doubt. you are married, and need to respect your wife. how would you feel if she had an ex's number?
2007-12-01 22:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be friends with her tell yoru wife about her.if you want more dont contact her.that would be cheating on your wife. it would hurt her. i dont think you want to do that
2007-12-01 22:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by lily m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ...call her ...After all this time ...call her!!
2007-12-01 22:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋