2007-12-01 21:36:25 · 21 answers · asked by daydreamer_sleepwalker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is not your father and you are not his child a good talk with him would fix the problem about everything in a marriage is a shared agreed upon decision ~~!
2007-12-01 22:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
But the two of you might want to sit down and decide mutually what time would be good to go to bed. Going to bed together is a good thing if you're getting along. Maybe not so important if you're not happy enough with each other for a little evening sexual activity. If you neglect that part of your marriage things won't be real happy. Problem is though that women often don't want to have sex when a man is being an ******. Don't know if that is what is going on or not. But most of the time when a man is trying to get his wife to go to bed it means he wants some sexual action in the bedroom -- otherwise why would he care?
But no, he shouldn't be able to tell you what to do. But don't stop there, try to figure out why. If it's to be controlling then don't give in to that. But if it's for sex, by all means, you should both enjoy yourselves. If you're not interested, then you need to look into that. Life is too short not to be interested in sex.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 21:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well does he want to be your husband or father? Unless he has some legit reason for this kind of behavior, like if your staying up @ unreasonable hours & being a disturbance or inconsiderate to the whole household. Which I'm sure your not. Being quiet on the computer in your own room wouldn't count as any of those, right? (wink-wink) Otherwise, find out what the actual reason is & try to compromise with him taking in consideration that he is your husband & worth your time.
2007-12-01 22:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by lovie808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, It's not right for him to tell you when to go to bed or tell you what to do. Your married you are your own person you know how to do this and that. I would sit down and talk to him to see if that helps. Communication is a big thing in a relationship. If you don't have that what do you have. You should say something before it goes to far.
My opinion only
2007-12-01 22:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a husband then I would hope your old enough to know when to go to bed and you shouldn't have a relationship where your disrespecting each other it will only get worse. Use your womanly ways to get your way if you know what I mean. Man are very predictable and most of time react the same way to things they are comfortable with.
2007-12-01 21:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by G girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should be able to give you his suggestions, make requests and ask things, and offer his opinion, but NO, he cannot actually TELL you what to do.
For example, him saying 'Will you come to bed with me now?' or 'I don't think you should stay up so late' is ok..
'You are going to bed now.' ....NO, not ok.
He has no right to order you around. I'd be asking him why he even feels the need to do that.
2007-12-01 21:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by myleslr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No....no should tell you what to do. YOU left that life behind you when you left your parents, they were the only ones that got to tell you what to do. Please tell your husband that if he wants to boss someone he should apply for a supervising job somewhere. You are the only one that is in control of your life and your body, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do . . .
2007-12-01 23:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, where does he get off? He is not your parents so therefore he should have no say to tell you what you can and cannot do, you are an adult so he should understand that... controlling=insecurity. He needs to definately step off.. try to communicate that with him.
2007-12-01 23:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...no. who died and made him God? Are your parents dead? Are you an adult? Just ignore him and do what you want to. You deserve respect and are not a child.
I woudl simply tell him, ordering me makes me uncomfortable, and I will nto take orders from you anymore. If you wihs to ask me to come to bed with you, then do so politely, please, and I may decide to, but I am not your child.
2007-12-01 22:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Etain 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, If your old enough to be married you should be old enough to know when you should go to bed.
2007-12-01 21:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋