to come in an talk and she smokes..I told her the smoke bothers me once but not assertively enough I guess and the last three times I got extreme sinus problems after being in her house..snorting, congestion, headache.
What alternative herb or practice/supplement/action might help this sinus stuff
and how can I get out of going into her house..I do not want to be that chummy with her but I am afraid of her as she got three neighbors kicked out and works for the office and I would rather be a friend than an enemy..I tried telling her I am a loner and don't like getting involved with the neighbors but she is already hanging around the hall or knocking on my door..yesterday she tried to get my phone number saying she needed it for some basket she is trying to get me but I refused to give it to her as I knew then she would call and I would not pretend not to hear her or escape when I didn't hear her if I was in the bedroom.
Help..how can I get my needs across without offending her or
2007-12-01 21:17:00 · 6 answers · asked by janie 7 in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
or getting on her bad side..even if she doesn't try to get me kicked out she is a huge gossip and talks to everyone in the building..she once told everyone I was sleeping with my brother and then begged forgiveness so I do not trust her at all..even when I told her not to tell something, I found out she did..the more I am around her the more comfortable I feel and the more I blab things,,I want to be hi and friendly but not chummy at all..how can I avoid her and her smokey house.
2007-12-01 21:17:31 · update #1
The woman sounds like she has a serious personality disorder and she is in a position of power. (Yikes)! She is obviously not willing to listen to you since you have told her several times that you are allergic to cigarette smoke.
Legally I don't know how she can get people kicked out of their apartments unless the tenants don't pay their rent or destroy property. If you feel comfortable try speaking with someone else in the office who is above her. (Don't complain to the secretary). Ask to speak with the property manager in private. Her behaviour could be seen as a bit intimidating (if this is how you feel about it) and it is certainly inappropriate. You were very smart in not giving her your phone number.
Good Luck.
2007-12-02 03:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by spiritwise333 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have two or three signs made, about 12 inches square.
SEVERE ALLERGIES, NO SMOKING
ALLOWED, NONE, EVER!!!!!
Put one one your front gate (If you have one) In your yard and on your front door. If you are in an apartment building tape a sign on your door. Unless she is really dense, this should get the point across. Just tell her you cannot go to her house because of your allergies. You just hate being sick.
If she still comes to your door, don't answer it. And do this every time she comes to the door. If she calls take the call once or twice, but just tell her you cannot talk your are in the middle of something. Then after taking one or two calls stop answering her calls. Use that caller ID always.
She will get offended, but she will get over it.
2007-12-01 22:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's the smoke that bothers me, I'll never hang out with her while she's smoking since i'm also allergic to smoke. Like you, I get the same reaction - headache, sniffles, skin asthma.
But with the character she has, I'll just simply will not go out with her since she isn't trustworthy. I avoid negative friends.
2007-12-01 21:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by Queena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell someone else in your office how she is behaving. I would mainly just avoid her as much as possible. Or maybe even move. Just say you are busy when she sees you, and don't answer the door if she is there. Just ignore her and let her think that you are just really really busy. Tell her you work all the time, tell her your mom is sick, just tell her whatever you need to in order to get some peace.
2007-12-01 21:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every time you are around her, hold a handkerchief to you nose and squint your eyes, and nod you head as answers to her questions......she will ask why..tell her cigarette smoke makes you ill..if you go to her place do not sit....stand with the cloth protecting your face...tell her how much you enjoy visiting her but just cannot because of the smoke....and search for a different place to live
2007-12-01 22:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by fretochose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your Highly allergic to Cigarettes and if she wants to talk she has to come to your house.
maybe you should think about moving? atleast plan ahead and look around
good luck
2007-12-01 21:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Neweyes777 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The two of you sound like a perfect match.
2007-12-01 21:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rahouel 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋