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Can someone please help me out?
I am married to a wonderful woman. When we first met, she had tons of guy friends - some of which I was not to fond of persoanlly. With not liking them, I told her that I did not want her talking to all these guys while we were together; she agreed and stopped telling all them she loves each of them and so forth. However, that has nothing to do with my problem/question. Lately, she and I have been doing great while in the house; in contrast of that statement, everytime we decide to go out together, we fight about fifteen minutes after leaving. I feel she is not respecting me many of the times; however, she always tells me that I am being rude to her. She always gives me attitude which really eats away at me. My question and concern is this below.
What can be done to mend the relationship and not fight constantly when outside? It is getting old.
Oh by the way, we have been together for a year now.
Help me???
2007-12-01 20:34:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you think things go well in the house? How can you transfer those communication skills to the car? Next time you go out together, see what starts the fighting. The phrase, the moment. If you can figure out what exactly starts it, then you can work on changing it. If it really does start with her disrespect, tell her right when it happens in a calm way. Tell her 'honey, I love you, but I feel hurt when you make say____. I don't mean to be rude to you, I just want you to know why that hurts me.'
2007-12-01 20:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being married 15 years! Get used to it,man! Wives put on the phony face when people are around. But the real witch comes out when they are alone with the "old man". I don't even bother going anywhere with my wife anymore because of the fighting! Oh,by the way. I know my wife is boning someone else. Maybe that is why she is giving you attitude!
2007-12-01 21:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by daryle.leiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to ask yourself is "What is it we are fighting about?" Are you jealous? Is she really being disrespectful, or are you over sensitive?
If its happening all the time, especially while you are out, what is it precipitating it? Or does it really start at home and just come to a head while you are out? Are you expressing jealousy, telling her she's looking at other men, or is she telling you that? Where does it start, and who starts it? Are you playing games with each other?
What you need to do is work out what is going wrong, and try to fix it.
2007-12-01 22:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not an outgoing person. Do you usually fight when staying at home? If not I guess her problem starts with going out.
2007-12-02 00:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to talk. Sounds like she has some underlying problem with you. Try getting some professional help if you feel it has come down to that.
2007-12-01 21:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you fight about? Maybe she'd prefer to go some place else or what...
2007-12-01 20:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you change a person by placing restrictions on what was their personality, it ultimately leads to resentment.
2007-12-01 20:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋