I went off on my husbands ex because she has an attorney in her pocket and is constantly in our lives. She has also unfairly screwed us over financially (we have to pay for a car that she let be repossessed and was in both of their names and then filed bankruptcy, guess who gets stuck paying the deficiency). After I went off on her, she brought the girls into it (ages 16 and 13) of course they are going to side with mom. Now she is trying to make me look like an idiot and say we are unfit. She is trying to make me look like a drunk because I was drinking the night I went off on her (no kids were in the house). It is such a mess. She is threatening to try to take custody of the kids which she gave up and my husband is now paying for my outburst. Shouldn't I be able to voice my feelings toward her without her dragging the kids into it and trying to take us to court out of pure vindictiveness? I am so losing sleep over this. Please advise.
2007-12-01 17:52:38 · 6 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Wow, that sucks. I guess I would try to backtrack a bit with the kids. Apologize to them for losing your cool, I know that will probably suck, but, drinking and going off isn't going to solve things right? Beyond that, it is your husbands mess to clean up, he married her, he had children with her, let him deal with it. If she gave up the kids she really doesn't want them, she just wants to be a nusance in your life, and apparently she's doing a good job of it. But no, don't voice your opinions of her to her, or in front of the kids, no good can come of it.
2007-12-01 18:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things get worse, hire a lawyer yourself. That, or study the law and see if she's not doing things that are crossing the line. Of course they're going to side with mom because she's mom. I also think the children are old enough to decide who they want to live with. And hey, if they're out of your hair, the better. Of course it makes me look like a dick for saying it, but I know you're thinking it. It sucks to be in a relationship with baggage. And if this woman is screwing up your credit and making your life hell, give her hell back. Can't let her get away with things because she has a vulture..I mean lawyer.
2007-12-02 02:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Randy C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth closed and out of it. Talk about it only to your friends and husband. You married a man with an ex and children, comes with the territory.
Sorry, but I have been there done that. Your husband needs to deal with her. I know it seems like the ex walks all over him and they do, but your husband is allowing it probably for the kids.
2007-12-02 01:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by bigDcowgirl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard but you going off gives her ammunition to use.
These situation's are never easy your husband needs to handle it. Just be a friend to your stepchildren. I know, easier said than done. Good luck ( You always have the right to voice your opion. Just decide whether it's detrimental for you and your husband)
2007-12-02 02:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by Let the shoosting begin! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get some counseling. This is not the place to air all your dirty laundry to the world.
2007-12-02 01:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by kriend 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you all sound like losers....this is the kind of crap you get yourself into when you're the second wife
2007-12-02 01:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋