Interesting question, and some what a hard one.
First do you have any children.
I love good debates.
Personally, none.., or very little, i can only use myself as an example, I am married, with four children.
I'm going to share this, not to make brownie points, but because it's okay for me to talk about it.openly.
Alot of what our children learn will begin at home. Yes, everyone says that, but its true. and should be.
For one you can't wait for your child to come to you with questions, by that time, its too late.
I have Twin 13 year old boys, a 4 year old girl, and a 2 yr old boy.
If you have some control, over what they watch, it helps, I say some control, because we can not be everywhere all the time.
but, that's the EASIEST PART.
I HOPE ALOT OF PEOPLE WOULD READ WHAT I HAVE TO SAY AND TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. I DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING AND DO NOT PRETEND TO, BUT WHAT I KNOW WORKS, FOR MOST PEOPLE, ONLY IF YOU APPLY IT.
THE HARD PART IS HAVING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILDREN, (NOT A FRIENDSHIP, I FEEL I AM TOO DAMN OLD TO HAVE A 13 YR OLD FRIEND, I CAN ONLY BE A MENTOR, OR SOMETHING LIKE A CONFIDANT TO SOMEONE THAT YOUNG. WHICH ALOT OF THEM, BOYS AND GIRLS DO NOT HAVE.)
IF YOU HAVE A VERY STRONG INFLUENCE ON YOUR CHILDREN, IT HELPS A WHOLE LOT. BECAUSE, WHEN YOU ARE AT WORK AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE WITH THEIR FRIENDS, AND LET'S SAY SMOKING WEEEEEEED, COMES UP IN THE CONVERSATION, IT'S HIGHLY LIKELY YOUR CHILD WILL NOT GET INVOLVED, AND THAT'S EVEN IF HE'S BEING TEASED.
SO IT HAS TO START VERY EARLY, YOU CAN NOT BLAME THE MEDIA, OR THE MOVIES, WRITERS, SONGS, ARTISTS,AUTHORS, TEACHERS WILLINGLY HAVING SEX WITH STUDENTS, (I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT CHILDREN GETTING MOLESTED, OR RAPED)
YOU CAN'T EVEN BLAME THE BIBLE, AND THAT IS ONE OF THE MOST VIOLENT BOOKS, TALKIGN ABOUT INNOSCENT PEOPLE GETTING KILLED ALL THROUGH IT, AND YOU DON'T HEAR KIDS SAYING I WAS READING THE BIBLE AND THAT'S WHY I DID SUCH AND SUCH.....
IT HAS TO START VERY EARLY, AND SAD TO SAY, WE NEED MORE INTACT FAMILIES, AND OF THE INTACT FAMILIES, WE NEED STRONG MOHTERS AND STRONGER FATHERS, AND WHERE THE FAMILY IS BEING REARED BY A SINGLE PARENT, WE NEED TO REACH OUT TO HER, OR HIM, THAT SINGLE PARENT AND THOSE CHILDREN.
KIDS ARE GOING TO THINK ABOUT SEX, SOME EARLIER THAN OTHERS, I DID... AND MY MOTHER HAD THIS OLD BOOK CALLED THE JOY OF SEX,WHICH THEY HAVE REVISED A FEW TIMES, AND I THOGHT I WAS THE STUFF LOOKING AT THAT BOOK, I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT SEX WAS, I KNEW WHERE BABIES CAME FROM BUT NOT HOW THEY GOT IN THE WOMB, IN THE FIRST PLACE, BUT I PUT TWO AND TWO TOGETHER, JUST BY LOOKING AT THAT BOOK, AND SHOCKINGLY I WAS NOT EVEN 7. IN RETROSPECT I DON'T BLAME MY MOTHER, BECAUSE SHE HAD A WHOLE CASE/BOX OF BOOKS, AND DIDN'T KNOW/REMEMBER WHAT WAS IN THEM, AND SHE NEVER KNEW TIL THIS DAY THAT I FOUND HER BOOK, I EVEN LEARNED HOW TO DRAW THE HUMAN BODY BY USING THE BOOK, ISN'T THAT SILLY, I WAS LUCKY, BECAUSE I COULD HAVE TURNED INTO A WILD CHILD, OR WORSE.
AND FROM THAT I HAVE LEARNED TO KEEP AN OPEN CONVERSATION ABOUT EVERYTHING WITH MY SONS, BECAUSE I DON'T WANT SOME FAST GIRL, OR BOY, FOR THAT MATTER TO INFLUENCE THEM. NEGATIVE WAY. AND JUST SAY THEY DO GET DISTRACTED, YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO ACT QUICKLY, AND FIRMLY, AND FORGIVE, YOU TEACH THEM BY EXAMPLE NOT BY DICTATING, THEY WON'T LEARN ANYTHING THAT WAY.
THAT'S HOW WE CAN SOLVE THE PROBLEM,
IT'S SO DAMN EASY TO BLAME OTHER PEOPLE WHEN SOMETHING IS GOING WRONG IN OUR HOMES, THE TRUTH IS SEX HAS BEEN AROUND BEFORE THE BIBLE WAS WRITTEN AND ANY OTHER HOLY BOOK FOR THAT MATTER AND ITS NOT GOING ANY WHERE,SO, YOU HAVE TO THINK ALWAYS ONE STEP AHEAD.
SO I AM STICKING TO A STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KIDS.
HONEYCHILD.
2007-12-01 16:53:34
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answered by Honeychild 4
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