my friend just lost her unborn son. she was pregnant and miscarried. she wants me to be there in the hospital with her. i'm willing to. i understand what shes going through because i have been there before. i'm going to try seeing her tomorrow. shes confused too. she was out when they were trying to save her and the baby. did everything they could for her son. then when she was in bed. she claims she dreamed about having a happy family with her ex and her son. she doesnt understand how she can dream like that after such a bad thing happened. she was told they were fantasies. now what can i do?
2007-12-01 14:53:25 · 5 answers · asked by Southern Princess 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she told me her fantasies as they called it showed her sons birthdays holidays having another child with her ex marriage
2007-12-01 14:55:32 · update #1
Just listening to her and giving her lots of hugs is the most important thing to do for her. Do not tell her not to worry she will have more kids! This baby is what she is mourning and it takes some time before she'll feel happy again. I lost a baby in my eighth month and it killed me that no one acknowledged that is was a real baby to me. I kept hearing "at least it wasn't after he was born", or "you'll have more." It's a loss of of a cild and she needs mourning time. You can also be there if needed to help her with cooking, houework, laundry, etc. You must be a special person to work finding the answers to help your friend. She will always remember that! Good luck to you and best wishes for your friend in her recovery.
2007-12-01 15:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by debijs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow that is unfortunate news. I couldn't begin to give you advice to help your friend. She may need to speak with the hospital therapist, but be supportive for her. When she tells you about her dreams, acknowladge them, they were a glimps into what might have been. She is always going to wonder what if. Be the best friend you can possibly be.
2007-12-01 14:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by drpepperbabe01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep doing what you are and make sure you are there for here and if she needs anything let her know that you will be there for her with anything that she may need. she will probaly have those kinds of dreams for awhile, there is nothing wrong with that . she just really attached to the baby and her ex and she can see what her life would be like if he were to make it
2007-12-01 15:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by moonstone2009 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her... she may want to talk or maybe silence but the comfort of knowing someone is there will calm her as well..
2007-12-01 14:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her.. when she needs something ask if you can do anything to help her.. mainly all she needs right now is comfort.
im sorry tht she lost her baby.. =(
2007-12-01 14:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋