Are you alone but not lonely or are you?

Question

lonely but not alone? Trick question, huh?

Answer 1

No trick. Alone does not have to equal lonely. Make friends with yourself. If you're your own best friend and you both have lots of hobbies and interests, neither of you will be lonely.

By the way, some of the loneliest people I know are married. You sometimes see them eating in a restaurant, walking along the street or shopping in the mall. They never speak, look, touch or smile at one another. They're just together but find no joy in the others presence. Look around when you're next out. I'll bet you can spot at least one couple. Incredibly sad. That's the loneliest kind of lonely.

Answer 2

You can be alone, and not be lonely. At other times, especially at Christmas, and other "family" days, you can feel lonely, on your own.

And, you could be in a room full of people, and still feel lonely.

I miss Roger (late husband), especially at this time of the year, but I will be with family, over the Christmas, so I won't feel lonely.

And then, there are the times, when you need your own space, and you enjoy spending time alone.

Does this all make sense?

Answer 3

I know what you mean though. My husband is always upstairs watching his tv and my grandaughter is usually at school or doing her own thing so I've gotten used to being alone but I'm not lonely because I'm not bored. I either crochet or am on the computer. I have never seen the time fly faster than when I'm on YA or listening to music. In the summer ,I have the garden as well so keeping busy is the key.

Answer 4

Lonely, but not alone. I'm divorced and live with my elderly parents, as a part-time caregiver in a rural area. I enjoy my job. My children live far away, but we keep in touch often. Everything is "fine", but I often feel like I have no time for myself or opportunity to find friends. I don't want to turn into the Weird Cat Lady or the Poor Maiden Aunt. To the woman above who wrote about her friends trying to play matchmaker -- friends are supposed to do that! Mine never did! They all said, "We don't know anybody like you!" They meant that in a complementary way, but isn't that sad for me? It's been almost 20 years now, so I don't think my chances are getting better!

Answer 5

Yes I am lonely but not alone! I live with my partner of 10 years. I work, he doesn't. We don't have a social life, Never ever go out and he is asleep most evenings. We are both at fault. Me for ignoring what is happening at home and him for feeling inferior because he can't get a job.

Answer 6

Not a trick question, you can live in a house full of family and still be alone.That's why I enjoy the holidays they seem to include me. I do feel alone a lot the rest of the year. When you get old, and sick and the money drys up it seems like family and Friends don't come around as much

Answer 7

I spent 30 years lonely but with someone. I thought I would never be able to tolerate being alone. I am now alone (my choice) and am only occasionally lonely. I could never have believed how much I enjoy solitude and aloneness.

Answer 8

I was married for 38 years & was lonely most of those years. After my divorce, I was alone but not lonely. I liked living by myself. People wanted to play matchmaker but I wasn't ready. I told them I was alone but not desperate. They backed off & in time, I met a wonderful man & we will marry next year.

Answer 9

It is convenient you ask this one before Christmas. I am alone (partner wise) but not lonely. The only time I feel lonely but not alone are the times I’m with my son during Christmas activities, such as the 1st Annual Christmas tree lighting ceremony this evening. I feel bad for those who are lonely but not alone (partner wise). There is a greater problem there. Greater than mine I'd suspect.

Answer 10

I live alone and loving it. Sure I can get lonely sometimes but I get over it cause I find something to do with my time. Plus I have my family that live close by except one daughter. But I talk to her often. So yes, I am not alone, but live alone. I have God to comfort me.