I use to be that kind of person. Until, my husband has chosen to not stop drinking, lies, and even put my children in danger with it. I look at alcholism as a sickness, and I said "through sickness and health", is there a limit though to what I should allow my young children to be exposed to.
2007-12-01 14:27:15 · 15 answers · asked by kelliemag 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think so. I think you should be committed to your marriage, but I also think that you are responsible for not allowing your children to be exposed to danger. How bad of an alcoholic is he? Are your children growing up in an unhealthy environment? It's wonderful that you aren't one of those people out there who just leave a marriage on a whim...but it sounds like you are in a serious situation and I don't think anyone would blame you if you left. Good luck.
2007-12-01 14:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to let him know that you are at the end of your rope here. Tell him that putting the children in danger will not be tolerated at all and that you realize that you took vows but your vows did not include the risking of your children's lives. Let him know that if he doesn't stop drinking then you have no choice but to protect your children and leave him. You have a responsibility to raise them to know the difference between right and wrong and you also have a responsibility to protect them. The children should not be exposed to his alcoholism and lies. It will send them the message that what he is doing is o.k. if you stay with him. If it were just you and him I would say that you have a bit more leeway before you leave him. With the kids involved it makes it a whole different issue and you do not have to put up with it at all. He took vows too and he is not living up to his side of things either. Love...if he loved you he would quit. Honor...if he honored your relationship he would not lie to you. Cherish...if he cherished you he would do whatever was necessary to make sure that you stayed in his life and that means he would seek help for his problem. His vows are broken so it is o.k. if you end yours too.
2007-12-01 14:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
" White" Christians?" Why might that make a change to so much right here in how one thinks as in your remark? God chooses men and women by means of their middle situation that used to be proven even within the Hebrew Scriptures. As a organization he used to be displaying them want than considering that they had been ordinarily those giving the only actual God devotion. Who's "middle" used to be towards him . They weren't stored simply being a Jew and no different purpose. You errors for your pondering there And what proof is that "Proves This" ( them being the selected--your submit) are you speaking approximately?
2016-09-05 18:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother should do whatever it takes to protect her children. Your husband is a grown up and he knows better. If he is putting your children in danger then You have to correct the problem. Maybe if you told him to get sober or you'll leave then could see the severity of his drinking and how serious you are about it. I see so many women today put their husband before their children and I just don't understand it. Children need better guidance than that.
2007-12-01 14:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by just me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey you need to put your children and your self first plain and simple. Find your self a good support system friends and family can help you threw everything. Go to some AA meetings or Alanon talk to people they will help you. Make your hubby stop or leave and stick to it. Try to get him into a treatment program. Try and help him and when that all fails take care of yourself and the kids. Never mind about the vows, you and the kids are more important. Good luck. If you can get him into treatment and sober things can only get better
2007-12-01 14:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't afford to allow children to be exposed to harmful behaviors because you made a vow. If your husband won't get help, from rehab, AA or a counselor, then you need to think of your children first since they can't protect themselves.
2007-12-01 14:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Through sickness and health is conditional on if this person will get help i think. Putting your children in harm is unacceptable. And if he refuses to get help and you have done EVERYTHING in your power to help him then maybe it's time for him to hit rock bottom. A separation might get him to realize that he could lose his family if he won't get better.
2007-12-01 14:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When it involves your children there is always a limit. If you have to take your kids away you should do so while he is getting the help he needs.
2007-12-01 14:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are very right.
Unlike other diseases, alcoholics have a choice. They can cure themselves if only they have the will to change.
But you must also heal yourself as well. If have not gone to an al-anon meeting yet, give it a try.
Good luck. I will pray for you, and your children.
2007-12-01 14:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. Their health and happiness should always come first and definitely before an alcoholic, lying, dangerous father.
2007-12-01 14:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋