What if you do not want a divorce?What if councling would save a marrige?Do I have the right to say no?Is there a law that states that you have to sign a divorce paper?What if one refuses until they feel councling should be the first step?
2007-12-01 13:27:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is in the state of Georgia.
2007-12-01 23:33:38 · update #1
He is asking the judge's permission to disovle the marriage. The judge can say "no". The judge can say, "I'm not even going to consider it until...". So the judge can say that he has to at least try counsiling for 6 months, etc. It may be worth a shot if you want to save your marriage. When judges see one person who wants to make it work, they often do try to make it work, etc.
On the other hand, it could just really piss your husband off, and what could have been an amacable divorce turns into a messy long drawn out one, etc. So think hard on this before you push this route.
2007-12-01 13:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Damocles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on where you live. In the State of Florida, Husbands and Wives are required to go to counseling prior to filing for divorce. The Judge won't even set a hearing unless the parties have tried to resolve their issues and work things out through counseling first.
However, If your mate is determined to divorce, why would you want to stay with him anyway?
Good Luck!
2007-12-01 21:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by thinking outside the box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how it is in your country, but here in New Zealand, if you apply for divorce, it is mandatory that you try counselling first - one session each separately, then one together.
I think it's a good thing - because it's giving you a good chance to air any your feelings and get an outside perspective. Sometimes, there are things that can be repaired within a marriage... it's sad when it has to end though.
2007-12-01 21:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can slow down the divorce proceedings, but you can't stop them. A divorce can be forced upon a person by court order.
If counselling could save your marriage, but your husband isn't on board for that, then obviously he's moved on. If this were me, I wouldn't bother with trying to stop it if my husband wasn't willing to work on the marriage. I would always find myself wondering what he'll do in the future the next time some major problem hits us. I need to be able to rely on my spouse, not wonder where the hell he is when I need him.
2007-12-01 21:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot drag someone to a counselor and expect them to cooperate and you can't force them to care when they don't. Everyone gets to make up their own mind how much effort they are willing to put into making a marriage work. If your spouse doesn't want to reconcil, they will get a divorce, nothing can stop it.. most states have no-fault policies.
2007-12-01 21:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the party wanting the divorce can have it granted by default.
As far as counseling, it can be great if both parties are willing to work at it. If not, it is usually unsuccessful. You can ask for court ordered marriage counseling, but remember: "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink...."
2007-12-01 21:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have no choice if one member of the relationship wants a divorce. However, you can speed down the legal process.
2007-12-01 21:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can refuse to sign at least in my state and at the point you reach two years he can force the issue. You can delay but you can't stop it
2007-12-01 21:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by George 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depoends on state law, in my state if you refuse to sign you can put it off 2 years.
You may be able to drag him to counseing but if he's against it, it may do no good.
2007-12-01 21:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly think that counseling could save your marriage, then why wouldn't your husband agree to it? It seems he has already made his decision. I wish you the best.
2007-12-01 21:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋