Childhood :(?

Question

In the first five years are very important for child development
like learning ability ,language and interaction with others.
I have suffered a tough experience in my childhood. In the past nursery affects me in my daily life. Firstly, I hard to interact with others. I find it is very challenge for me to do so. I always make a lot of conflict with my friend and can not to control my emotion so
the conflict has been produced. The interaction is very essential in the competitive society but I can not accumulate the relevant skill.

Answer 1

I don't think you are whining, only trying to explain what may have caused you to act this way, You are right, those early years are extremely important to the development of a person;s ability to interact with others. This is the time a child learns to trust, love, receive love, and gain a command of empathy. I guess having a child does not only mean being willing to feed and diaper, does it. A baby learns about trust and love from his mother and father, but the mother is the primary influence in his life. There are kids from over-seas who have never know human contact other than for physical care. Do you know what this can lead to? An attachment disorder. You need to see a professional to help you with these issues, please do so. As for letting your perceived parent's failings roll off your back, right on, you bet that is 100% on the money. But this is something that takes place before a child has entered the age of remembering or reasoning. You can shake off the fact that your parents drank or yelled a lot, or did not attend your Christmas play, but how could you know that they ignored you most of the time when you were a toddler?

Answer 2

There are books on developing social skills and video tapes. A lot of effective social interaction is understanding how the other person might see a situation as opposed to approaching every situation with the idea of getting what we want out of it. Interactions should be resolved by in-win situations where both parties get what they want out of an interaction. The other thing is to listen more than you talk. A person who listens to others is always seen better and they had to work less for approval. A person shows he is listening by rephrasing and commenting on what other people say and encouraging them to talk more. It shows that you are interested in them. That's a few things to think about.

Answer 3

Stop whinning about your childhood.
IT'S OVER!!!
Why people blame everything on their moms and dads and things that happened 10, 15, 20 years ago?
If you know that a certain experience causes you trouble, then you also know that it happened in the past, and it's over and done with!

So, put the past behind you where it belongs, stop whinning like a snotty cry-baby, and get a life!
Blaming everyting on the Past is a comfortable way of getting away with lazyness, and avoiding taking responsibility of your current actions!