own way. We have a 19 year old daughter, she still lives at home, goes to college and does not know we are divorced. My ex gets on my nerves and I can not stand him but for my daughters sake I can not kick him out. What can I do to tolerate this situation with out loosing my mind? Any suggestions would be greately appreciated.
2007-12-01 12:25:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your daughter is old enough to handle it. Sure, she will be upset, but I'm absolutely certain she would rather know the truth than be told a lie for an untold amount of time. When she finally does find out, if she finds out that you waited so long to tell her, she will feel betrayed in a way.
Go ahead and fess up, and have him move out... it's just the best thing for everyone.
2007-12-01 12:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is not like your daughter was little, she is already a woman and probably the news will take her by surprise but I doubt that knowing that you two are divorce will make any damage on her. Do what you think will make you live in peace, besides you are not getting any younger and I guess what all human being wants at certain age is to live in peace and harmony and if living with your ex-husband is causing you distress then it is time that he finds a new place to live away from you. Good Luck!
2007-12-01 12:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's 19 for Pete's sake...you'd rather continue to lie to her rather than have her deal with the fact her parents are divorced? What's gonna happen to her if she knows? Is she Chicken Little and will run about crying that the Sky is falling?????? betcha she has already figured it out, Toots. Kids today are far more saavy than we were ( I'm 54) tell her officially then take care of the ex and get on with your life! Your using your daughter as an excuse to hang on to the drama.....
2007-12-01 12:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think living a lie is a horrible example for your daughter anyway. Would you want her to stay in the same house with an ex like that? She's not a baby. She actually could be out on her own, so she's old enough to handle the truth. You are lying to her and that's sad.
2007-12-01 12:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by Belle in Florida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are refusing to tell a nineteen year old that you and her father got divorced? And you're staying with this child's father for her sake?
Cut it out. You made this (incredibly bad) decision for your sake, not your daughter's. If the ex is getting on your nerves that much, kick him out and replace him with a roommate that you can tolerate. And PLEASE tell your daughter what you did. She does not need to hear this information from someone else.
2007-12-01 12:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is old enough to handle this news. Whats the point of divorce if you still live with him and have not changed your life one bit. Make changes today! Move out if you have to, but the time to do it is now.
2007-12-01 13:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is 19 years old. She's old enough to understand and has a right to know. Staying together for kids is the worst reason to.
2007-12-01 12:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by pandabear™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is an adult....it is not fair of you to treat her as a baby..and your game playing ...she needs to know the truth from you not someone else...she will find out sooner or later. Who would let an ex live with them anyway..what kind of games are you playing with him...let him go
2007-12-01 12:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by wilma s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is your house, then ask him to move out. Otherwise, make up for your daughter's sake. No use pretending. One of these days, the truth will come out, and it will hurt everybody more than what it is now.
2007-12-01 12:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by leon adrianto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At `19 your daughter is now an adult. Tell her the truth.
2007-12-01 12:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋