what to do pt 2?

Question

i have issues with my wife. she is constantly calling me lazy and good for nothing, she doesnt work and does a lot of house work which i help her out with but now i am sick, to the point where i can barely even remember the things i done an hour ago and im not very helpful at all. please dont yell at me im not trying to get out of my responsibilities but she is constantly yelling at me and calling me names, how can i get her to relax and understand that i will get it all the work done even though it takes me a while? i also have to build a lot of computers for the business i run. please help?


she may be mad at me cause i wouldn't give her access to the business account though, that might have been quite selfish of me to do. but what am i to do?

that is the first part of my question, but i forgot to add some details and explain. well i do enjoy helping my wife it isnt that its just now that i got a bad cold and thats what i meant by being sick, i been just tossing clothes lately

though i kept my clothes in a neat pile, i just have lost a lot of energy and cannot remember what i done an hour ago. she is yelling and screaming at me and its just making my head get dizzy even worse. i am half asleep most of the time, i dont know what to do. i just asked her for counseling and she just hit the roof. any other advice?

i also apologies for spamming but the question landed into incorrect spot

Answer 1

hey sh*it like that happens. i can see why you are so disgusted , it is hard to do what a gal does at home all day. you are doing right by trying to please her an help out. but her name calling just isn't right. i would look even harder for work! to just get out of the house! everyone needs their space!

Answer 2

It sound as though you have a domestic problem that goes beyind just helping around the house or being ill.
First, why not see a Doctor and find out what is wrong with you. Sounds like Flue and that is not a good thing to fool with. It can kill you.

Second, why is the wife screaming at you. Just because you are ill? It sounds like this yelling and calling names has been going on for some time. It does not suddenly start up. It starts small and keeps growing. It can escalate to physical assault.

It also represents an utter lack of respect for you. It sounds like a vicious attempt to humiliate and degrade. She is telling you that she really looks down on you.

Aside from seeing a medical Doctor it might be advisable for both of you to see a vounselor and find out what is the source of the problem and get it taken care of immediately.

You second choice is a temporary separation. If you cannot work things out then a more permanent measures should be taken. No matter what kind of bumbling idiots we are, we still have the right to respect. It seems that, for whatever reason, you are not getting it. Because you are ill and cannot function well is no excuse for yelling and name calling. It is a reason for understanding and consideration.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear! But I think the best thing to do is you guys just need some time a part. Why don’t you go to some place that may help you relax or drive your wife to the mall and let her cool off for a bit?

I know woman can be irritated sometimes, but suggesting counseling is not a good way to resolve any issues. I think the best approach is that either one of you have to give in and be the bigger person. At this point you may be the one that needs to do this :)

So the point is give time to cool off, and once things are calm and settle then you can explain to her about how you feel and try to find ways to work things out before it gets out of hand, so that next time these types of misunderstanding won’t happen again. I hope that helps :)

Answer 4

Have you ever had a head injury? I am being serious here. Sometimes you can suffer these kind of symptoms (amnesia, dizzyness, fatigue) after a head injury, and they go undiagnosed and untreated. You may not even remember the injury, and someone will have to remind you. Have you seen a doctor at all? If it is looked at fairly soon, you may be able to overcome these problems with prescription medication, and/or therapy. Best of luck!

Answer 5

Hi there, it's a shame she doesn't appreciate what you do. I wish my boyfriend would help me out a little.
Now if you r doing things and she is still stressed up, you should try other things such as saying nice stuffs like how much you like to be with her, she is a nice company, the kind of romantic stuff we see in movies.
So if she's got a sort of housewife self-steam issue that might help! Maybe all she needs is some "sugar"!!
good luck! ;)

Answer 6

Well she has it pretty easy with you, I don't see what she has to complain about. I am a stay at home mom and hubby works long hours..The only thing I ask from him is to entertain our son when he is home and I am busy. You 2 really need to have a heart to heart and find out what she want from you. She could be more understanding of your not feeling well.

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with the wife. Let her know your home isn't a elem entry school yard so she can can the name calling and talk to you like a adult and a man!

Answer 8

she has no need for access to the business acc. this is not a condition that is going to last forever. having said that, if my spouse had that little understanding i would be leaving.

Answer 9

Your wife is abusive and you should see a doctor for you illness and see whats wrong-

Answer 10

.....YOUR LAZY BUT SHES NOT WORKING
.........YOU BOTH CLEAN
.........SHES MAD ABOUT NOT GETTING ACCESS TO A ACCOUNT?
~IS IT YOUR WORK OR BOTH OF YOUR JOINED BUISNESS? (IF NOT, SHE DONT NEED ACCESS, AT ALL)

LAST BUT NOT LEAST......
YOUR SICK....SHE SHOULD CARE MORE BOUT YOU!!
NO RESPECT!!

THIS QUESTION MADE ME HAVE TOO MANY QUESTIONS MYSELF?
SORRY YOUR SICK