I met that girl like 9 months ago, we stayed together since then.
At first, she hid loads of things from me and after 3 months she came clean and told about the truth, about her past life and what she was doing while she was with me in the first 3 months, which was shocking but because i loved her so much i understood & i stayed with her and didnt freakout.
I understood that she made a mistake and appreciated that she is coming clean and she wants us to succeed together.
After 9months, I left everything, quit my job, left my family, my friends & left the good life i was living my car &my house to rent a room to be with her.
Anyways, i didnt freak out i just left my country and paid loads of money in a plane ticket to the other side of the world to be with her
She never appreciated that i quit my job and came to a new land new life which is so stressful. she just kept stressing me out more, last night and today i saw the real her!
I m so confused please advise.
2007-12-01 09:20:48 · 16 answers · asked by Confused_Distracted_Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Going back home is the easiest, if not the safest way for you. However, I would daresay that if you left your hometown, it is because nothing back there is really important to you. Give yourself one more opportunity to live this new life you have but by yourself. She is not the right person for you. There are a lot of beautiful and incredible girls out there waiting for their right guy and you could be the one.
Do not miss this opportunity. I guess that you had a previous plan on how to survive, didn't you?
GOOD LUCK
2007-12-01 09:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, everything happens for a reason. Sometimes life's twists and turns are out of your control. You were brought there for a reason, it may not have been the reason you thought...perhaps you'll find a new...better...opportunity. Perhaps with or without the girl? Perhaps, an even better girl, or better job, or better life than you ever imagined possible. Sometimes you have to recognise that the control is with a higher power. If you try to control the situation by yourself, it will be very confusing and frustrating. FROM----been there & done that.
2007-12-01 17:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by george p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving everything you know and coming to a new country for someone you've known for 9 months is a drastic step. You don't sound happy in the least. Seriously? Go home. You need to be with your family and friends, you need to comforted. This just sounds like a bad situation all around.
2007-12-01 17:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your stuff and move on. You only new her for 9 months, you should have not left everything to be with her. A woman wants a working man, so you quitting your job, and immediately landing on the same footing or getting a better job was not the right move.
2007-12-01 17:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she cares that she didnt help your life out which is good because you know she cares. Either that or she really just didnt want you to come. And also you were really stupid to leave everything behind just for a girl. pathetic.... i would tell her how you feel about the situation then leave and go back home. get a job. make up w/ family, and anything else you want back.
2007-12-01 17:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by HEELLLLLLOOO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately this was a very expensive life lesson.
I am not sure where you are now, but maybe you a make a life for yourself there. Otherwise, perhaps you can go back to your country and chalk it up to experience.
Either way, you hopefully have learned not to rush into such a serious situation.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 17:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by mystique 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming the real her you've now seen isn't someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, what you do is save up enough money to get home safely, and remember this lesson the next time you're ready to give up everything.
Lesson learned. It's hard, and painful, but it works. Leave her, and tell her why. Don't be swayed by her sudden need for you. She's someone who's deceived you, and she's doing it again.
2007-12-01 17:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost did she ask you to move with her or not? If so there is no problem if not well you have to chalk up one experience point and move on. If your happy where you are then things will work out if not. You will have to leave. Good luck.
2007-12-01 17:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by vanallenbelt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing onec... I was an idiot. Clean up your act and look at it for what it is. Get back to where you came from brotha... step back and take a look at it. Love isn't what's going on here.
2007-12-01 17:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Zipperhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose sight of whose life you are living. Time to pack your shi* and start your life anew. She is not the most important person in this relationship, YOU ARE. Good luck.
2007-12-01 17:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋