Have you ever cheated, and had a "one night stand" with someone during your marriage??
If so, do you regret it??
(This question isn't directed toward those that may have had extended affairs, but just those who may have had a "one night stand" here or there along the way).
2007-12-01 07:49:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for 4 1/2 years and have never cheated on my husband. I can't imagine ever being tempted to either. I love and respect my husband far too much.
2007-12-01 07:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Velouria 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have had the one night stand and I felt very regretful afterward. But I was not in any other commited relationship. Never have cheated (been cheated on though). I am now with someone I love a whole lot; we are getting married next year, and theres nothing better than a happy committed relationship.
2007-12-01 07:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by pandora7269 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married to my first husband(married at 18, lasted 2 years), I did. I never really loved him, but that does not excuse it. I have been married to my husband now for the better part of a decade and have never even entertained the idea. You should take those vows seriously. One night stand or long term affair. They all equate to the same thing.
2007-12-01 08:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kricket T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Yuck. We all feel a strong magnetism towards other people from time to time, but it is genetic perogative flexing, not "true love" or that crap. Not worth destroying a relationship over. One night stands are an excuse to sabotage the relationship - usually as a way to flagellate yourself or a misguided attempt to recapture one's youth (mid-life crises). In either case, it backfires because even if the cheater does not confess, the damage to the relationship is there and the cheater tends to punish themselves with repeating the offense or wallowing in the guilt - which makes them feel imprizoned and resentful. The sexlife suffers and the relationship goes further downhill. Only a major intervention can save it - the parties need to separate in space and rethink the relationship in their own context and then take it back to courtship to rebuild the relationship from the ground up.
2007-12-01 08:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Amy R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After years of fidelity... I just had an affair. (Before you throw an egg at me, at least it's over now and not by my choosing... see how dumb I am?) I regret it and feel tremendous guilt over it. I really made a mistake and I am acutely aware of that .. as far as honoring my marital vows and hurting my spouse and even my children. And too, I lost all of my self esteem. But I can't seem to get over the affair either. There are consequences that I didn't think of, and the whole thing haunts me.. every minute of every day. Hopefully, I will be able to continue to function without the self-loathing I'm feeling right now. Desperate Housewife, Lonely, Bored, Insecure in need of a rush. I was tired of feeling like a piece of furniture that everyone in the house walked by.. I wanted to be all that... and I got burned.
2007-12-01 08:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Thought about it once, but realized the consequences outweighed the benefits. If my husband found out he would leave, then my kids lives would be shattered by divorce...it was not worth it. I regret even thinking about doing something so selfish. So no, I have not cheated and I will never cheat.
2007-12-01 07:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
one night stand, seven night stands, extended affaris all equate to the same sin, you have cheated on your partner. It isn't a pretty thing i guess, and to those on the way, think seriously how it is gonna affect your partner or your kids, and of cause the guilt you are gonna carry if you are a decent person to feel guilty.
2007-12-01 07:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ash_Jx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've got been married two times in the previous, so i do no longer care if i do no longer marry back, yet I won't say that I "won't" marry back...it is not a precedence in any respect, yet i could opt to have somebody to share my existence with... i've got been unmarried for a protracted time now (the extra advantageous area of the previous 11 yrs) so i'm comfortable with it purely being me, in spite of if it is how something of my existence is going...I even have buddies and family contributors and interests, so it is by no skill uninteresting (yet from time to time it gets lonely)...
2016-10-18 12:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. By the grace of God alone I do not even entertain the thought and play with fire. If you are not responsible enough with the one you are committed to for life, what makes you sane enough to play with someone's emotions and heart when you are not married to them? Every secret lie and infidelity gets exposed one way or another because it's simply not right. God hates ugly! Cheating is U-G-L-Y!
2007-12-01 07:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by GI Jane 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. Have been tempted but love husband too much to ever hurt him and lose his trust. So when that 'instant attraction' with someone surfaces, I go running into my husbands arms.
2007-12-01 12:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋