How do I make my wife feel wanted and needed? I know that we need councling and I want to stop fighting. I really want to be loved by my wife and have the intamacy and closeness back. Besides flowers, candy, a card, most improtantly date night what else can I do?
2007-12-01 07:43:51 · 9 answers · asked by sec8_cm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let her tell you how you should feel or act. Stand up for yourself and respect yourself as much as her.
2007-12-01 07:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll try to address the issue however, there are a few thing that I'm not clear of. You mention fighting what type of arguments do you have? Anyway, do you compliment her on the way she looks, her hair, her eyes, anything that would indicate that you look at her with loving eyes. Do you ever say that she is best the thing you have in life? Compliments are truly an expression besides touching of how you feel about a person. Are you a slob around the house? Do you make up the bed after you get up? Anything that you know that would please her is another point accumalated for your marriage and your love for her.
2007-12-01 16:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by doradogirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's all about the flowers,candy cards..etc. It's about the daily routine things as well. Having coffee/breakfast ready for her when she gets up at times, doing the dishes for her..laundry...taking time for just her to go out for lunch...buying her a special article of clothes...teddy bear/card for no reason.....etc. If she's the love of your life treat her as such. Nothing should be too mundane or difficult for you to do for her. Take her out of town even if it's for a night to a hotel with a pool to relax and get away for an evening. I know if you use your imagination you can come up with things that don't cost a lot to do for her and yourself. Good luck.
2007-12-01 16:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with her. Let her know how much she means to you and how grateful you are to have her in your live. A lot of woman complain that they get all these special features (flowers, candy etc.) but that their partners never talk with them. Tell her what is on your mind and ask her what she has been thinking. Listen to her carefully when she responds also as at times we males are often accused of not listening. Best of luck and happy marriage.
2007-12-01 15:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy yourself the book called "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs - it is a brilliant book based on a scripture that instructs men to love their wives and wives to see to it that they respect their husbands. When neither does either of those things the marriage goes into what he calls a crazy cycle where there is nothing but fighting and nastiness. If neither yields and makes a positive action to improve the situation the crazy cycle spins in a downward spiral to the divorce court leaving a devastating and broken trail of hurt, ugliness and broken hearts, not only destroying one another but others cloe to them too are also hurt by all thier silliness.
Most of us need to grow up in our marriage realtionships and become accountable and move with integrity and dignity. Men like to be respected more than they liked to be loved. Its a real ego booster when a wife says to a man that she respects him for the way he does whatever she admires. Women again need to be reassured that they are loved and need to be told "I LOVE YOU!" often and not once per year or just assume that her man loves her. Some men find it hard to love their wives hence the reason God gave that order for men to love their wives. He didnt have to tell the wives that because women instinctively are love machines. They are more emotional than men are, hence the reason they neednt be told to love their men, but respect - thats another thing. It just takes a "FRIEND" who is miserable and unhappy in her own marriage to sow a seed of doubt, because she is bitter and women suddenly loose respect for their men. In fact you just have to look at some of the soapies on the tv's and ironically from america where men are played down as inferior beings who should be treated with contempt by thier spouses and children and to look like idiots. Everything we watch affects our lives - garbage in, garbage out!
This book will give you tremendous input and can make a great big difference to your marriage. It means being prepared to take up the challenge by being committed and dedicated to getting this story fixed. It will take a while because confidence in one another needs to be restored again and it will. So it will require patience and endurance on your part.
Remember the bible also says Love covers a multitude of sins and love is faithful, kind and holds no record of wrong doings. Love forgives. Love is becomeing and is not rude.etc etc.
Sometimes people forget all the wisdom the bible has to offer because our world out there doesnt want us know the biblical truths since it goes against what they want, because of greed.
God richly bless you and may you find a new meaning for the word marriage. DOnt ever give up on things. God can help you fi them. He will always give you strength and every thing we experience is their to strengthen our characters too. So, see this as a learning curve. Just give it your all!
2007-12-01 16:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her little notes and leave them on her make up table,on the bathroom sink on her dash board leave her coupons ie this coupon is good for a back rub or dinner that you make a night out on the town ask her if shes hurt when she asks from what tell her when she fell from heaven thats just cute and shell never forget that
2007-12-01 15:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by gramachamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit coming unglued when she talks at you and stop making your way the ONLY way.
2007-12-01 15:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her around the house or with the children if you have any. give her some 'me time' so she can go out with her friends and relax. if you do this she won't be tired and cranky and believe me she WILL feel appreciated for the help and caring. actions always speak louder than words.
2007-12-01 15:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by serialmom12 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you posted the same question and you got pretty good answers use them
2007-12-01 15:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by DJ M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋