2007-12-01 07:28:54 · 24 answers · asked by clever girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It always seems to happen that way. I have friends who disappear when I need them the most. I have acquantances who surprise me with their warmth. Some people just don't have the depth that they need to be good friends. Know where you stand with them and mourn the loss of what you thought your friendship was. Rejoice in the new people God has sent you.
2007-12-01 11:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by ....... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 ways to look at this. I feel the main reason would be that your friend is in "denial", doesn't want to face the fact there is something wrong with her best friend and burying her head in the sand is her way of dealing with it, hurtful as it may be to the sufferer. Probably feels a lot of guilt by not being there when she is needed, but doesn't know how to deal with the situation. On the other hand she may just be a selfish cow, but I wouldn't think that is the reason. Try talking to her, let her know how hurt you are and that she may be feeling bad about your illness, but not nearly as bad as you are. I hope all works out well and the best of health for the future.
2007-12-01 07:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be kind of angry but think of it this way: maybe your friend is really worried about you and doesn't want to see you suffer, it could be painful for her to see you that way. It's not an excuse, but that could be the reason. Try to talk to her and say it would mean alot to you if she was there for you during chemo etc.. I'm really sorry to hear that you are in this situation or if this question is about someone else,
2007-12-01 07:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by bdancer15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone processes pain the same way. If your friend is either in denial or just hates hospitals (some have the "white coat syndrome"), they just can't do it. Give your friend a break and try talking it out. Being hurt only hurts you more, and you sure don't need that!! You have a choice about how to react. Choose the one that makes you feel the best. : )
2007-12-01 07:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by gaildee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sadly you find out who your friends are when you need them the most. People always seem to let you down in the long run. There is really no excuse she should have your back every step of the way. Good luck to you I hope that you have a full recovery and also I hope your friend sees she is not being a good friend by any means.
2007-12-01 07:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by Adam S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can barely understand the question...I don't get it. But if you're trying to say that your friend who is like a sister to you is not around while you're undergoing chemo and she uses a new bf as an excuse to why, she sounds like a crappy friend. Times like those, you learn who your real friends are.
2007-12-01 07:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 06:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by fireman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not want to face the reality of your illness. Also, she may not know how to express herself to you, and she feels it is better to not be there rather than say something wrong. Speaking from experience, I am the type of person who buries their head in the sand, and doesn't like to face troubles. It doesn't mean that I don't care, or that my heart is breaking for that person though. I am sorry though for you during this time. I can't imagine how difficult this time is for you. May God Bless you, and heal you.
2007-12-01 07:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Observer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say she isnt a real friend. If she was, she would bring her new bf with her to come and visit you, and be with you through this. I know I would.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, I wish you better health soon.
2007-12-01 07:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be totally upset and tell her. A new bf is no excuse!!!! I would probably not talk to her for quite awhile and let her know how deeply she hurt me.
2007-12-01 07:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋