I think the older I get, the more I learn about people. How people and human nature operates. And the more I learn, the more I distrust and become cynical. Aside from one person (you know who you are!) I really feel I can't trust the genuine nature and motives of people. I put all my trust and loyalty into my music, books, movies and art. Seems like a better bet.
Do you trust people?
2007-12-01 07:06:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I'm with you on this, but wait until you get older. You learn so much more about people as you age. The only people that I truly trust is my family, and I'm not even talking about EVERYONE in my family. I'm talking about my kids. Their the only ones that I can trust fully.
2007-12-01 13:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, people aren't all identical to each other in every way. People vary. A lot.
Some are more generally trustworthy than others. Some people are trustworthy in some ways, or about some things than others.
Intelligent people use a basic level of trust of people until they are proven through their behavior to be untrustworthy. That is, you should assume everyone is completely untrustworthy, but you shouldn't assume everyone is, either.
Over time, as you get to know this or that person, you get clues as to how far and in what ways you can rationally trust them.
This is why, for example, blabbing everything about yourself to everyone you meet is a bad idea.
As a relationship develops, you can test how trustworthy they are.
On the other hand, being completely mistrustful over everyone is also unwise, as most people deserve some level of trust, and it's impossible to live sanely when you're always assuming the worst of everyone.
There are people I trust about some things, not others.
I usually trust until I have reason not to.
In general, it's worked out for me.
2007-12-01 10:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I trust people until they prove me wrong. There are very few people in my life who have been dishonest to me personally, so why should I take it out on all the ones who are good, honest, and trustworthy? Should I mistrust all black men because I was attacked by one 25 years ago? No! I don't trust him, and quite possibly I am not as naive as I used to be, and act in safer ways, but that doesn't give me the right or reason to distrust all men, or all blacks. Really, there are only 3 or 4 people in my personal life that I don't trust, and they gave me reason to.
2007-12-01 13:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean but I am still young so I can't say I distrust them.But every time I meet someone I say to myslef "what a great guy/girl" but once I get to know that person he/she really stats to get on my nerves and that repeats time and time and again so eventually if I don't change and start to accept things the way they are I will end up just like the way you say.Or alteast that's what my spiritual advisors say.
2007-12-01 09:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by brich_inc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I trust people until they give me a reason not trust them.I have found that most people are honest .I don't stop buying apples because one may be bruised.I'm thankful for the 11 that were good.
2007-12-01 13:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they earn my trust, yes I do. I'm generally not a distrustful person. When someone breaks my trust, they don't get it back for years; if ever.
2007-12-01 07:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one person whom I trust implicitly.
As for the rest, I will give them a chance until they prove me wrong.
I don't meet too many people and stay away from those whom I consider to be totally untrustworthy.
Books and movies work for me too.
2007-12-01 09:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to know????
Just kidding! Actually I trust people too much, but have learned to not trust as much as I used to. I have also learned to ask questions to myself about many situations so that I don't set myself up for abuse, heartache, theft, violence, etc...
2007-12-01 08:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
overall, no...it's hard to trust others who have such selfish motives at any given instant and so many fake people out there...with me, i will give people the benefit of the doubt when i first meet them, but from then on, they have to earn my trust and keep it...it takes a while, but once they have it, then they have it all cuz i know they are genuine
2007-12-01 07:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can read people i get a bad vibe or a good vibe from most people but some i cant i have a hard time trusting people because ive been hurt in the past
2007-12-01 07:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by lisa13angelic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋