MY wife and i have been fighting for some time now. I realize that we need councling, but would like affection from my wife. Because of all the fighting for so long I've forgoten how to earn it from her. I have missing the intamacy and sex, what are some simple things that I able to do to get that back from her?
2007-12-01 07:04:41 · 16 answers · asked by sec8_cm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should know what she likes, treat her right and dont expect anything in return and it should come back to you and the rest will be easy
2007-12-01 07:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you both need to work on some things, but it's a good sign that you're wanting to patch things up and make it better. Sorry, I can't think of 'simple things' to accomplish this, but just letting her know that you love her and that you want to work on stopping the fighting and making your marriage better should mean a lot to her, especially if she feels the same way.
If, however, she is not at all interested in making things better, I don't know what to say. It takes two people to make a marriage work.
Hopefully she's ready to stop fighting and try to make things better also and will appreciate your gesture...if you do it with flowers and a white flag for peace, it should get her attention.
2007-12-01 07:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get started with the counseling now. Stop fighting. If she starts yelling commit to yourself that you won't yell back. Talk to her honestly. Tell her that you love her and you want to fix things. Surprise her by doing the dishes, cooking her dinner, or taking her out on a nice date. Compliment her when she looks nice.
Here's the thing, though, don't expect sex right away. If you guys have been at each other's throats for awhile it will take some work to get comfortable with each other again.
I think it's great that you are wanting to fix your relationship. Find a counselor and get some help.
2007-12-01 07:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flowers, a card, give her a day off meaning you take care of the kids and all house hold chores, diamonds are nice too. But don't forget to apology for your part in all the fighting, And thro in a lil extra for what you caused her to do even if you don't think you did anything wrong. What works best and foremost is giving her attention without expecting to get a lil. I love to be held. oh yeah, don't forget to make her feel wanted needed important and sexy. Good luck we woman are very complicated
2007-12-01 07:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by idunnosqwat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, come home with some flowers, take her out to dinner and talk to her. Tell her how you are feeling....and ask her how she feels about things.
That might be the start of a whole new life.
2007-12-01 07:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember how you first got her.Look at the movie'What women want'.Most woman want to have some one to talk to,but some one who really listens.Flowers,dinner,dancing and touching her gently on her face.Tell her what you feel in your heart,but most of all just listen to what she wants.If you can't listen believe me someone else will.
2007-12-01 08:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own bed and try to doing something just for her and quit thinking about your own needs. All you really want is a piece of A.. Be honest now.
2007-12-01 07:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by ra16297845 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy her flowers or take her out to a really nice restaurant! It sounds simple, but those things work!
2007-12-01 07:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her often if there is anything you can do for her... buy her a rose, open the door for her, talk to her... get to know her again. im sure you've probably changed and grew since you've been fighting.
2007-12-01 07:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop fighting
if u dont want to fight.. then dont! try to work out ur problems by calmly talking... be understanding
have fun
2007-12-01 07:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋