I have been dating this girl for 2 years and i know that she had sex with girls before we went out, but recently i found out she is getting more intrested in women again. I'm not one to share and neither is she. We love each other and we don't want to break up so how do couples deal with it. Do i get a lot of girl on girl pornos or what? Again i don't want to share.
2007-12-01 06:59:58 · 13 answers · asked by Derek D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My last b/f and I reached that point ourselves. We were also growing apart in other ways. I was very loyal to him, but I was also becoming more and more interesed in girls. I'd never have cheated on him, but I admit in retrospect I started to resent him (not for anything he did, just tranderence of my own frustration). Eventually, he pulled the plug; he had more guts to face the truth than I did. Half a year later, it's worked out for both of us; we both have ideal g/fs.
If you g/f is anything like how I was, it will either fester inside her, or it will manifest in a way inconsistent with monogamy with you. If you both truly want to avoid this, then I'd really suggest counselling.
Good luck!
2007-12-01 07:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kara J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to have an open relationship where both of you have other sex partners. You can carefully work out what both of you are comfortable with. The love is between you and her, with everyone else it would be sex. Of course it is up to you. It all depends on how much you trust her. If you persist in being paranoid and jealous of her previous experiences with women then the relationship will destroy itself. It also depends on how much she loves you, you are after all meant to be the main man in her life.
There is no reason to presume because she is Bisexual she is completely incapable of being faithful. Be honest with her about how you feel first and then build from there.
2007-12-01 07:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by teddythomas83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, the best thing you can do is talk about it, don't jump to conclusions (either of you) support each other and be open and honest. it's hard but if you love eachother it's worth it. being attracted to both sexes doesn't mean you want both at the same time. i am bisexual and wouldn't dream of sharing my long term partner or of having my own fun behind his back. you can work through things together and find a stronger relationship through openess, honesty and supporting each other, don't bottle up your worries, she may only want to look at women and fantasize!!. all the very best
2007-12-01 08:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by bubble g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to small minded people who havent been there. my partner only realised her bisexuality 16 years into our relationship! and we are as happy as ever and more secure!! the answer is to talk about it and listen to what she is saying...she is not saying she wants to go with somebody else, just that she is also attracted to her same sex. the way through is to talk, talk talk! you love each other so you will find a common ground where you can both talk comfortably about it and discuss your fears and worries. it's hard at first but it DOES get easier...honestly. all the best from someone who is still there :0)
2007-12-01 07:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Doozer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you that plenty, then unload her so as that she will discover an important different who isn't biphobic and overly judgemental. Why on earth could you unload her in ordinary terms for being bi? You do understand that bisexual capacity the two gender, proper? which comprise yours? How could you like it if she (enable's assume she's a brunette) dumped you in ordinary terms given which you admitted which you as quickly as dated a redhead? the two recover from it or get out previously you injury her heart. -Scarlet
2016-10-10 00:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a mess. No, girl on girl porno will only make her want a girl, right? You need to decide if this relationship is right for you.
2007-12-01 07:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's your problem? We're all bisexual, even Sigmund Freud said so! Anyway, we can all be convinced into changing our sexuality by spending more time with one side, so your girlfriend will probably be heterosexual again over time!
2007-12-01 09:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaa. well for the boys point of view it could be bad or good. for the good you get two girls insted of one. and for the bad maybe your just not that good. and she wants a women back, just sit down and talk to her,
2007-12-01 07:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by amy. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not willing to share then you had better look elsewhere for a gf! If she likes pus.sy, there's nothing you can do about it!
2007-12-01 07:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem?
2007-12-01 07:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by mikeydonatelli 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋