Long story short, longterm bf and i broke up about 6 wks ago (both 25) and haven't talked since last wk, when he called me saying he missed me, how hot I was, how much fun we had, wanted to start seeing me again, etc. I'd heard he had a new gf and called him out on it. He said they were nowhere close to being official and just hang out. Turns out she was out of town for Thanksgiving and I haven't heard from him since she got back.
Saw them togehter at the mall today, and he stopped me to say hi. Then he said, "Hey are you dating anyone? I have a buddy I want to hook you up with." I was hurt & angry, so I said, "You know I'm not dating anyone. You're funny... why would you try and hook me up with your friend when just last wk you were calling me to tell me how much you missed me and wanted to get back with me." They were both shocked. I said bye and left.
I honestly feel horrible now. It is not like me to be bitter and vindictive like that. Should i apologize to him?
2007-12-01 06:45:59 · 33 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure it won't make a difference to the girl he's dating now, he'll just make something up, but it is so unlike him to be a player and then to say something cutting like that. I spoke without thinking and I really feel bad. I don't know if I should apologize or if he had it coming...
2007-12-01 06:46:56 · update #1
RUDE
2007-12-01 06:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by / 2 · 0⤊ 8⤋
hmm... that is a tuffy. It sounds like he really did miss you and wanted to see you again. And maybe when he saw you at the mall he got flustered and didnt want the new girl to feel uncomfortable so he pretended to be completely over you. It really comes down to why you broke up in the first place. Do you want to get back together with him? I would maybe apologize, but make sure to explain how rude and contradicting it seemed. I would probably have done the same thing you did! If you still wanna remain friends, then apologize. If not, then just let it go. I hope this helps. Another scenerio could be, if when he called and said how much he missed you and you didnt return the feelings, he maybe just thought, "well, obviously, she's over me." So he was embarrassed that he wasnt over you and maybe tried to let you know at the mall that he was over you too. Its hard to say with so little information! Just do what you feel is right. Good luck!
2007-12-01 06:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Giants Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you acted like a 2 12 months previous newborn, and had a considerable temper tantrum because you would be able to desire to no longer have issues your way? Yep, you owe him an apology. besides the reality that why he could ever opt to talk to you back, i do no longer understand. He wasn't "using" you, he became into being buddies with you. It does not sound like he became into ideal you on, it appears like he became into very sparkling approximately issues. there is not any longer something incorrect with being buddies with an ex-2 of my exes are great buddies. in case you probably did no longer opt to be buddies with him because of the fact your emotions for him are nevertheless too solid(it is the reason you experience so offended-it is a protection mechanism we use whilst issues harm us), you could desire to easily have advised him so. Then stopped answering the telephone whilst it became into his, and delete his texts without answering. placed some area between the two considered one of you.
2016-10-18 12:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were in the wrong to say that. He was obviously playing you and trying to make some sort of statement in front of the new so-called girlfriend (maybe trying to show her that you two were really no longer an item and he was over you). Maybe he just wanted to see your own reaction to such a ridiculous comment, and then when you turned the tables by calling him on his game-playing, he didn't know how to respond. All you did was make a truthful statement--maybe he is just really confused about his feelings. If he was up to no good, then Karma had her say. Just forget about it.
2007-12-01 06:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by dizzylizzy20_11 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, your ex b/f is a liar.He wanted to hook up for sex while his current woman was out of town.You see he likes not being committed thats the great thing about shacking, you can always holler "WE aint married or nothing".
You did the right thing by calling him on his lies and hypocrisy and exposing him for what he is to his current g/f.
Theres a reason you never married and why you broke up.Time to hurt heal and move on hon,and DON'T feel guilty or sorry.You CAN get a better guy than that.Try church.The United pentecostal churches are great.
2007-12-01 06:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You shouldn't feel badly at all. He did have it coming. The fact that you feel bad is just an indicator that you have a conscience and actually have a heart. This guy probably played the same **** with you in the past.
2007-12-01 06:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by GodivaChocolateStarfish 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He had it coming.
No don't tell him you are sorry but you could tell her that you are sorry for the way you acted.
I think you did a good thing letting her know what he did when she was gone.
Good thing you did not go out with him again, cause you would get even madder.
2007-12-01 06:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was ok for you to do that! He has no right to try to play you like that! I'm actually proud that you did that! It makes me feel better that there are woman out there who will stand up for themselves! So... congrats! Sorry that its a wrong time for a congrats but I feel its necessary! Good luck to you!
2007-12-01 07:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say do what your gut instinct tells you. If you feel that you are at fault, then apologize. If you feel that what you did was appropriate for the situation, then move on with your life.
2007-12-01 06:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by shamusodoofus 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nah, no need to apologize. He was being a bit insensitive and it seems he was trying to prove to the new girl that he doesn't have feelings for you.
He should have known better, really.
2007-12-01 06:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by nicholebeth 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No u sould not apologize, he was the one that was wrong. No female wants to sit there and feel used and walked on and thats what he tried doing to u, his fault not urs he had it coming...I'da knocked his a** out!
2007-12-01 06:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋