My ex-boyf called me after having no contact for one month. He broke up with me in the beginning of the year and the break was so hard. He hated the fact that I asked for no contact to heal myself from it because I still loved him so much. Last month he came to see me and we had a very nice time but I told him that if we cannot be together, we need to go separate ways. I hated doing it because I want to be with him but he says we cannot be together if we live in different countries. I was missing him so much last month but I was trying to be strong not to contact him. I am going away for about 3 months next year and he said it scares him. He called me this week to say he wants to work things out, solutions how to be closer but he wants to wait until after I come back from my time away. He does not want to do it now. I told him that I want to see him and he said he is scared to meet me as he suffered from it last time when we met as he saw me crying. He said to wait until I come back.
2007-12-01 05:43:02 · 12 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He told me he loves me and he admited he wasn't the best boyfriend. He says he doesn't want to be with me now though but he wants to try to work things out after I come back. But I don't understand why. He keeps saying as he hates being in a long-distance as we were for almost 3 years. I just don't know what to do.
2007-12-01 05:43:53 · update #1
Get over it. Find someone else. The track to true love is never this overgrown.
2007-12-01 05:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you going for 3 months? What'd ya doo? I say knock off this silliness at once. Is there really nothing better to do then spend every moment you guys are together acting like idiots and ballin'. I hope you are only about 9 or 10 cuz this is sickening. Please post weather or not you read this the next day and regreted the crap out of it. Read it out loud to yourself. I think youll begin to understand what is going on here. Live your life. You guys dont have to be stuck like glue. Just make time when you get time and be cool to each other during the time you do have and life will do the rest. All ya gotta do is w8 n c. and also SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP THINGS COULD BE SO MUCH WORSE! QUIT TRYING TO "MAKE" THE FUTURE. YOU CANT DO IT. ITS OUTTA YOUR HANDS. HAVE FUN DAG-NABIT!
2007-12-01 06:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I may take an analytical approach. If he was trying to use you there's a 70% chance he wouldn't use the line of waiting till you come back. Dogs don't invest time and emotion. They spend all your free time. They also try to make everything seem simple and easy to start up again. He's letting you go and telling it will be a process for him as well. If you take his offer, that attitude of time investment in the other person and his empathy toward your pain can be a good foundation for marriage. I'm not saying go ring shopping, but the elements you mentioned are good ones.
2007-12-01 06:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by haigazimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move forward and do not regard yourself as in any kind of relationship with him. I think if you do not have contact with him you will find it much easier to move on. All males sooner or later regret that they dumped you. Have absolutely no contact with him and date other people. If he contacts you when you come back and you are not in a relarionship with anyone else then fine - see him for a couple of dates - in fact the more independent you are and the more of a social life that you have without him the more attrwactive you will be to him. men are weird like that.
2007-12-01 05:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I see in both of you is "Romeo & Juliet" Get back with him, see him, talk to him. Dont take every stupid advise, everyone makes mistakes, nobody is perfect. I am sure you are not perfect either.
Its not easy finding someone as you explain, You guys love each other. Talk to him about the long distance relationship, I think thats the major problem in your relationship. long distance relationships usually dont last. Move with him, or he moves with you for a good future.
Sometimes you have to sacrifice a lot to accomplish a little, but that little in the long run is A LOT.
2007-12-01 06:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Beemer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships seldom work out unless you're Oprah and Steadman. It's scary to think of moving on and up, but go ahead and wait until you return from your three months away. You may both feel very different by then. Change is good!
2007-12-01 05:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is messing with your head because he is too scared to move on- it will never work because he wants all this one way. Forget him and move on now- he was in your life for a reason and now he is not. Learn from what you shared together and go on through life more positive and a better happier you.
2007-12-01 09:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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alt="Click here to join therealfamilylife">2007-12-01 05:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he loved you he would wait for you, as he wants to be apart whilst you are away it is possible he wants to have sex with other women in your absense, and if you loved him as much as you say you do why dont you just take him with you?
maybe this is not meant to be but neither of you is brave enough to make the break!
2007-12-01 22:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and tell him absolutely no more contact until the both of you can be together.
2007-12-01 05:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋