I had a fight and broke up with my girlfriend of almost four years after I found out she was in contact with her ex boyfriend. The fact that she was in contact with him isn’t really the problem it’s the fact she lied repeatedly for almost two days about it even know I told her that I knew 100% that she was, over the space of these to days I kept pushing her to tell me the truth and refused to believe that she was not in contact with him, she told me she was in the end But by pushing her for the truth I also pushed her away and she said she wanted to break up. this is the third time I have found out she has lied to me witch is making me think if I only know about 3 lies how many do I not know about. But the fact is I love her we are so well match and we are best friends. I have been talking to her today and she said that she thinks she needs space and I agreed and said that I think I need space also she says she loves me and she just wants to think about what she wants she said that I am the only person she has really been in love with and I think she is the only person iv rely love also. She also said that I she thinks I don’t trust her but I explained that iv found out she lied to me to many times and that I want nothing more than to completely trust her but ev time I find out a lie trust just go’s more and more. I don’t think I should accept being lied to I believe relationships should be based on honesty. So what should I do? I don’t want to luz her and am totally confused about the whole situation. HELP ME.
2007-12-01 05:32:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
been there done that. the only thing you can really base a relationship on is honesty and trust. as long as there is that everything can be worked out. the hard part is the 4 years you have with her. it will always be in the back of your head if she is lying to you or not so it is really hard to regain that trust. give it the space that you need but most likely it probably is over.
2007-12-01 05:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by mixman812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to establish trust in the relationship. This is going to be something that is needed on both sides. Yes, she lied about talking to him, but maybe it was because she knew you wouldn't trust her. The two of you need to sit down and discuss what each of you are comfortable with the other doing. It is fine if she has male friends or if you have female friends, but the two of you need to trust that in the end, both of you will come home to each other.
2007-12-01 06:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean you don't want to lose her, the f#ckn ***** kept lying to you one right after another. man just forget about her because it will get worse as the relationship goes on do you really want to waste time with her? find a nice women who is honest and faithful. so give this women her space and move on ,once a lier always a lier same as once cheater always a cheater and whats goes around comes around just remember that i don't like to see people get hurt by jerks like her good luck
2007-12-01 05:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every physique lies, exaggerates or minimizes often times. Falsehoods are a coping suggestions-set all of us use from time to time, despite if to shelter a complicated subject or to reinforce a tale we are telling at a party. i think of to furnish an "answer" on your question we ought to comprehend why is it so significant to you to comprehend rather the fact? Do you think of she is in touch with the different individual? Do you suspect she is plotting to harm you in by ability of a few ability? once you assert you "have faith" her you're implying which you do not have self assurance she is making an attempt to harm you. If this is actual then enable it pass. all of us want area and privateness even from our companions often times. it rather is recommended to make the attempt to contemplate what is going on with the dating and your reactions that brought about her to experience she could not be truthful with you? it rather is a solid time to take a ruin, so which you the two can evaluate what you're searching for for in an significant different and what you're offering them.
2016-12-10 09:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to loose her but you have to sit down and think do you want the person you love to keep lying to you. I think you should separate your self from her because she is a lier. It seems to me that she want her cake and eat it too.
2007-12-01 06:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
John!
Do you want to be her father or her boyfriend?
Ok, then start acting like a boyfriend instead of a controlling father.... or you could always leave her.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 05:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant trust her than you dont need her and there is
somebodyfor everybody let her go if she comes back than
its meant to be if not than it never was
2007-12-01 05:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋