Friend who is 33 contemplating affair with 15 yr. old boy in OH?

Question

I have a friend who is 33 and married for 15 years w/ 3 kids-our husbands are best friends. She confided in my that she and a 15 yr old boy are in love and want to be together. The boys parents found out and are of course furious-they told her if she had any more contact w/ him they were going to the police. Im desperately trying to talk some sense into her-her husband is extremely mentally and emotionally abusive to her-I think this factor is seriously clouding her judgement-shes just not this type of person. She has a son just 1 yr. younger than the boy. They have not had sex, so far it has all been emotional, but the boys parents have copies of the texts, and records of all the phone calls-what can be done to her? The age of consent in OH is 16 but it has not been sexual yet. Are there other laws, such as possilby corrupting a minor or any others that anyone knows?? Of course I am suggesting marriage counseling and completely stopping this relationship immediately.

Answer 1

if she goes any farther with this his parents will see to it she serves time. she just needs to leave the bad marriage she is in, and get some therapy.

Answer 2

yeah i dont know that there exists much of a difference here, 18, 33, 60, who cares it's all gross and illegal also, although not illegal, even if some 15 year old boy asks an 11 (or 15) year old girl to do that it's still gross, men are pigs at all ages also, what kind of 19 year old hangs out in a chatroom with 13 year olds? that entire room sounds like it was created by pedos

Answer 3

How about this kids parents? What are they saying, or don't they know? I would stick to your guns and tell your friend to get help rather then throw her marriage away for a 15 year old who will probably end up leaving her. She could just file for divorce and start a new life without a 15 year old boy to love. I don't know about the laws in OH, but ask her to watch DATELINE NBC: To Catch a Predator. This is just not normal. Good luck to you and your friend.

Answer 4

your friend needs an immediate change of pace or location to break this obsession with this boy, it borders on mental illness and obesssion right now. it will hurt everyone involved and does untold hurt to the famililes if she does one more thing about this. seriously. she is wrong on so many levels she could end up in prison. not to mention ruin her childrens reputations forever. i dont care if her husband beats her every day, that has nothing to do with this behavoir on her part. young children need to know their boundaries are respected by the adults around them. period. she is not doing that and i am so sad for all the destruction all around. later she needs to apologize for this to the boy and his family and make amends and own up that this was aberrant behavior on her part and wrong wrong wrong. she should not be anywhere near this boy. i assume he is the son s friend. this is just horrible and more serious than you know. this happens all the time and ruins peoples lives, other people never forget. if this has managed to stay quiet she is very lucky. she needs a huge slap cause she is not dealing in reality.

Answer 5

Tell her the boy cannot be a father to her children, he has no job no transportation,etc.Also in 5 yrs he will be 20 she will be 38.The day will come when her kids will turn on him and make his life a living hell, he will wake up one morning and look over and say "my GOD!I married granndma!" and if she has daughters they will begin to look good to him and maybe he will look good to them.He is still a child and thinks like one.She knows this and sees it as an opportunity to "raise her husband " to be a good one.He will change in the next 10 yrs and the relationship likely wont last.

Answer 6

I can't imagine a 33 year old woman and a 15 year old boy could possibly share enough in common to make a stable relationship.... not to mention she will be considered a pedophile. She is married and she needs to focus on that more than anything. Obviously, if she continues her behavior...there will be serious charges brought against her that will be more than she bargained for!

Answer 7

This might be too big of a problem for one friend to handle. Wow! I'm not sure about the legal aspect, but I agree with trying to get her to seek professional help on the issue. Because if her husband is abusive, then her judgement is surely clouded.

Answer 8

ask your friend how well she likes the idea of being in a jail cell???and inform her that will b where she will b spending a lot of time in the future. that just isnt natural....why would u want 2 b with a 15 yr old??? she is a pedifile. if she is in an abusive situation she needs 2 get out...otherwise suck it up!!!but leave someones baby alone

Answer 9

That is so sad.
She should leave the husband.
The 15 year old is only going to be good for a few minutes over and over again ;-D ...Not much fun, I wouldn't think.
And yeah, the parents can get her in trouble one way or another, I'm certain.

Answer 10

Oh god, tell her to see a cousellor now, she is desperate for love and attention, she needs to forget about this child and leave her husband. This is the source of her discontentment, she needs to forget about men for a while altogether and get herself strong and independent again. Please encourage her to get help and tell her she needs to find herself again. Tell her not to contact the boy, if she really loves him she know he is just a child and does not know his own mind yet, its not fair on either of them to be in contact, or his poor parents, anyway good luck you sound like a nice friend.

Answer 11

Ask her how would she feel if she got thrown in jail, branded a pedophile and can never see her kids again? The woman needs serious help...serious counseling...