A boy who goes to my school (I'm in 7th Grade) has a girlfriend who's 15 and she's pregnant, she knows and a couple other people know. What are some stories?? Cuz there somehow going to raise this baby. He'll be 13ish when the baby's born. What can I do?? Thanks 4 the help!!
2007-12-01 05:01:43 · 17 answers · asked by Reba and Melissa fan!!!! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was 14 when I had my daughter. I'm 17 now. and just found out I'm pregnant for the 3rd time. I'm still trying to decide what I want to do about this one. I had an abortion the last time. I'm not sure if I want to do that again but I can't afford 2 kids, it has really cut into my social life big time, I still get out there and have fun but not like it use to be.
2007-12-01 05:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Wow, that is sad. It will be very hard, but possible.
Two of my friends just had babies. One was 20 the other 16. It's VERY expensive. You have hospital bills, doctor bills, diapers, clothes, food, toys, checkups, etc. And their lives are about to change big time! No more parties, no more going out whenever, no more freedom, no more money, no more sleep, no more life! If you're older and responsible it isn't that bad, but being so young is very difficult because you have your whole life ahead of you, and now its just the baby. He'll be the youngest dad at his kids graduation (about 32 as opposed to the average 40) and face a lot of stereotype as well as rumors and sometimes worse.
He needs to get a job as soon as he can cause there will be a lot to pay for. Unless they are giving it up for adoption or their parents are going to raise it.
But really the only thing you can do is to be a friend to both mother and father, because there won't be many friends there for them at this point.
P.S. take this as a lesson. If you aren't ready to have a baby, you aren't ready for sex! And if you're going to be stupid enough to have sex out of marriage, use a condom and birthcontrol!
2007-12-01 05:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to them about adoption. They are way too young to raise a child. They are children themselves. A 13 year old can't get a job to raise a child-his parents will have to support the kid. If they had any brains they would find a couple to adopt the child at birth.
2007-12-01 05:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by magix151 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children raising children isn't a good outcome. Be prepared for your state to step in if the parents dont. My oldest daughter got pregnant at 14 and we tried to help her raise her daughter but our state stepped in as she was too young to be raising a child. It's sad news, I know, but it can happen. Be there for them and be supportive, but also let them know they are not ready to be parents as being a parent is alot of hard work that even people in their 30's are quite ready to do that job. Make sure they know all forms of birth control and where to go to for further advice. My heart goes out to you and them, but honestly, they should really think about adoption, not abortion as the child didn't ask to be put here, but there are loving families out there waiting for their turn to be parents.
2007-12-01 05:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by memommy33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. It was their mistake, and quite a sad one at that. Their parents are going to most likely raise the child, so I guess the only thing that's left for you to do is to be supportive and continue being a friend. I can't believe how young kids have sex without being ready for the responsibility and consequences of their actions.
2007-12-01 05:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is under 13 right now? Because if he is, the chances are that as soon as it's proven that he is the father, the girl will be goinmg to jail for 4th degree Criminal Sexual Conduct. Sexual activity under the age of 13 is only legal if both parties are under 13. otherwise it's the same as if he was under 18 and she was over. To avoid jail time, their best bet would be for him to claim no responsibility and her to pit the baby up for adoption as soon as it's born.
2007-12-01 07:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
raise the baby and be sure to tell there parents they need to know dont drop out of school just get a nanny
2007-12-01 07:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, isn't he screwed?!
he's 12? what is 13ish? find new friends.
it's called adoption. there is no way in hell a paper route is going to pay for a baby.
2007-12-01 05:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean what are some stories? There is no way in hell they can raise that by themselves, basically it will be their parents raising their baby.
2007-12-01 05:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
they need to speak to their parents and sort out whos going to raise the baby, there only kids themselves and it wouldnt be fair on any of them (including the baby) for them to bring the baby up themselves or if they do they will need ALOT of support
as for what you can do im afraid there isnt alot other than encorage them to speak to their parents
2007-12-01 05:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋