I am married, not happily and i was seeing someone on the side for about a year and a half. well, he moved away recently and will be coming back home for the holidays. he wants to see me over the holiday. I still have feelings for him but i am not sure what to do or how to go about seeing him without getting caught. Help, i dont know what to do??
2007-12-01 04:51:16 · 22 answers · asked by peanutmunchkin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some balls and get a divorce
2007-12-01 04:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Honey why are you staying in an unhappy marriage? It is not worth it. Don't you deserve better than that? Life is too short to be miserable and I would not do it. Meeting up with this old flame is just asking for trouble. I don't think that is a good idea. If you still have feelings for him it will make it worse when he leaves again. I would see about fixing your marriage or getting out of it.
2007-12-01 05:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're just making a bad situation worse. You're in a failing marriage and seeing an old flame?! He's a ex for a reason, if he wasn't then you'd be married to him and not your current husband. Pour some water on that flame, get a divorce and move forward. Going backwards is counterproductive. We've got to leave ex's in the past where they belong in order to grow!
2007-12-01 05:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Nasra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want permission to behave like a tramp. You don't need my approval to do what is clearly wrong, and yes you do know that it is wrong and you want someone to validate the act that you know is wrong.
Forget this guy and end ALL contact with him. Do your husband a favor and leave him, but before you do admit that you have behaved like a tramp and that you do not deserve a marriage under any circumstances. Perhaps then you will meet someone that you can recommit to that will lead to redemption for you.
One more thing. Don't bother telling us how he cheats too. Two wrongs do not make a right!!! Never has and never will. PERIOD!!!
2007-12-01 05:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know it is. If you want to see other people, end your marriage first. It's pretty simple. Why ruin your husbands trust of all women because you can't deal with your unhappy marriage like an adult? Get out or remain faithful. Anything else isn't fair to the man you made a commitment to. Good luck :)
2007-12-01 04:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not happily married but, still married.....I don't get that. If you are working on your marriage and plan on staying with your husband then stay away from the lover....If you want to be rid of the husband then leave and move on with your life.....
2007-12-01 04:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong...and you know that it is...how would you feel if your husband was meeting up with an old flame? If you aren't happy in your marriage.....do something about it....seek marriage counseling together....and if that doesn't work...then why don't you leave your husband before cheating on him again....
2007-12-01 04:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are married - why would you do that --- Okay- if somebody is UNHAPPY IN the marriage -- either get divorced --- or go be with this person - if that is what you want for life..
but hooking up here and there when you are married-
thats just wrong.
what do you want to come out of it???
2007-12-01 07:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't happy with your spouse, get a divorce. Being unhappy in a marriage doesn't give you a pass to cheat, just a lame excuse.
2007-12-01 04:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are married! If its not working out, get a divorce and move on with your lover! You cant have your cake and eat it too! Its not right. Save your husband the heartache and leave him!
2007-12-01 04:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Getting someone on here to tell you to go for it will not not make it right. If you do see him, I hope you do get caught!
2007-12-01 04:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋