2007-12-01 04:35:03 · 19 answers · asked by mryungbp 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think they can use a blow up doll.
2007-12-01 04:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby K 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
There really is not much of a reason to be afraid of women, in my opinion. The type of men who admit this type of fear, however, are already on the way to helping themselves simply by realizing the source of their shyness to the opposite sex.
Realistically, without small gradual steps these individuals would never change. One couldn't just go out after an hour of motivating oneself and expect to have anything different. Initially, he or she would have to get to the point of being able to laugh at themself, more importantly being able to accept their own imperfections and insecurities. Everyone has them, the only difference is some let them show more than others. When a woman rejects you politely, ask them politely to be honest as to why, as you are trying to improve yourself and would appreciate the help. Going away to sulk, make excuses, and blaming one's own pudgy figure and large glasses accomplish nothing. You'd be surprised how many women would gladly be of assistance (even more at how many gorgeous, well-minded women are walking around men you wouldn't expect).
If I don't act awkward about a statement and say it with in a sarcastic but direct manner, it is not seen as awkward. I once got a great-looking woman's number after beginning by asking her if she was going to go build bricks in the quad (where they were painting them for doorstops). As long as it is mutually understoond that humor is involved, many many doors are opened.
Next, support from trusted peers who know the situation would be essential, or if wanting to take on the situation alone a neutral site must be found. This could be a place that is social and diverse enough that not much attention is brought upon anyone yet still allows for substantial social interaction. People feel very exposed alone at bars/clubs and feel that everyone is noticing everymove; this couldn't be farther from the truth.
After time, improvements will snowball along with confidence; this doesn't mean shyness has to be thrown out the window, as both can be had if wanted. In fact, shyness is seen as a popularly desirable "mysterious" quality that many of the opposite sex are attracted.
Practice is the KEY. By simply striking up conversations with the workers at the clothes store about sales, to asking the waiter about how busy the night is, to being comfortable to say a simple hello and good morning with complete strangers on the street, confidence will skyrocket. The simple, smaller seeming things matter here and go back to what I said about taking small steps.
Anyway, it really is a waste to let social fear of something bad that "might happen" rule over something extraordinary that "could happen".
2007-12-01 05:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by hoolian06 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Often, they have been repeatedly rejected at critical points in their lives, leading to low confidence with women. They are often told that they are "too nice" to make a woman interested. There are shy women that this happens to, also. For either gender, I think it's very sad if nobody takes the time to get to know them. Once they gain confidence, they make some of the most loyal spouses and best family members possible.
2007-12-01 04:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by legendofslipperyhollow 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm shy and reclusive. And my woman wasn't just mean to me, she was fricking evil. But I don't hide from women. I think you are generalizing. I don't know anybody who fits your description.
2007-12-01 04:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
you may not evaluate a guy to a woman. each and each is diverse. yet a guy, and a woman, supplement one yet another. In different words, one guy and one lady (at the same time) is one unit. they're a complementary pair.
2016-10-25 06:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not shy they have an inbuilt "intuition"
which protects them from the inevitable.
Sort of like the fight or flight thing.
keep smiling!
2007-12-01 04:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
it is hard to understand we teach to be a better one and take this life like i and we do and love us all as one this is the truth of it all as it is a reason to be true.
2007-12-01 10:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by curious and want to help 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the are in need of psyc help....why would anyone be mean to them? Living reclusive is not going to improve their situation either ... they need to get out and do things.
2007-12-01 04:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by gr8ful_one 6 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I think they need to grow some balls, MAN UP a little, and get over their anti-social mental block and go enjoy life.
Women are mean! Even the nice ones get hormonal! Get over it! That's normal...
But I couldn't imagine my life without mine... it's not supposed to be easy... nothing worth doing, ever was!
2007-12-01 07:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sage Daily 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋
By the time they mature it's too late
2007-12-01 04:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by tiftiftac 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
they are correct. they all will emerge from the closet / doorway to test the unknown if you will or the forbidden.
some will be labeled perverts, pedophiles, rapist, womanizers and/or harbor masochistic tendencies towards all who cross their paths.
2007-12-01 04:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋