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I was married for 7 years,i have 3 kids with my husband,but we separated bout 3 months ago. We still married but i started a new relationship with someone he kinda knew each otha but were neva really friends....Am i doin rite to want to start a new relationship so soon after bein in a frustrated relationship for so long...?

2007-12-01 04:32:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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no, the grass is never greener, if you have problems in a marriage you first seek help in trying to fix it, you dont run away from your problems and hope they go away with someone new, you fix them if they cannot be fixed you get a divorce and then figure why you marriage failed and then start a new relationship, thats the smartest way of doing it. what you are doing is selfish and what is considered an affair

2007-12-01 04:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by DJ M 4 · 0 1

If you are asking this ? then you are not ready to start dating again yet.
Give your self some time and give the kids some time to get use to your new lives.
You don't want or need to take extra problems into a new relationship, you may not see the problems right now but they are their.
Give everyone some time to heal. It will be better in the long run that way.

2007-12-01 05:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0 0

I think after you've been with the same man for 7 years, you might be jumping into another relationship too soon. However, it all depends on how you're treating this new relationship. If you're ready to move in with him then you're going WAY too fast. But if you're just dating him and having fun, being sure to keep your kids separate from him (just because you don't want them to get too attached to him), then I'd say you're probably doing okay.

Just take things slow because you don't want to fall into the trap where you move things too fast and end it with this guy. Anyone who isn't your soon-to-be-ex-husband is going to be a breath of fresh air. Just enjoy him! :-)

2007-12-01 04:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There's a bond and commitment in marriage. Either it is honored or it isn't. If you are separated then you are still married and are in an adulterous relationship. If you intend on truly divorcing your husband then you should wait until that is final and spend time getting yourself together. Otherwise you won't be able to be a decent girlfriend to your new boyfriend. Going from one relationship to another is never a good idea.

2007-12-01 04:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by haigazimo 2 · 0 1

I would think about what the situation might be doing to your children over anything. Obviously, you are on your way to a divorce... so what you do is your choice. But what about custody of the kids? This might jeopardize that for you if you are looking... and how a new man in your life so quickly might confuse them. You not only have do what you feel is best for you, but for your children as well.

2007-12-01 04:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0 0

That's ok if you are in progress of divorce. Don't have your cake and eat it too. My estranged wife is seeing someone else, he is a nice guy and all, but I couldn't be with another man's wife, even if they were separated. There needs to be closure to the marriage. I understand not being appreciated, so keep it on the dl from your children until you are sure that it's time to up the ante.

2007-12-01 04:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0 0

You had to appreciate what solutions human beings might provide you with a question consisting of yours. i might call it having low shallowness and no longer able to communicate on the subject of the 'gaps' which contain your husband.

2016-12-17 03:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Only time is going to tell that, honey. Problem is, when you move into a new relationship so quickly, often it is with someone very like the one you left. Now think a minute - are his good qualities reminding you of how it was in the beginning with your husband?

2007-12-01 04:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by misselie1 4 · 1 1

If it were me, I'd want to be on my own for a while to really explore myself and figure out exactly what I wanted. Jumping from one relationship right into another wouldn't seem like it give you the time to figure out what you'd just learned.

2007-12-01 04:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

plz try and get help with the marriage my parents married when i was 2 and split when i was 6 it killed and i even cry about it now ( im13) plz try to help the marriage think about the kids it would hurt them so bad and i know I've had a pretty bad childhood so far i don't want to see this happen to your kids!

2007-12-01 04:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by ~♥~Blue~Eyed~Girl~♥~ 1 · 0 0

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