Tough "love", Detachment with "love" or Agape "love"? Which do you practice most

Answer 1

Tough love is often evil.

Dr. James Dobson wrote a book called "Love Must be Tough" which has ruined many marriages which did not have to end.

It ruined my marriage.

That book is one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high within Evangelical Christian churches.

I practice Agape Love whenever I can.

In brief a Pastor who read that book convinced my wife she should leave me and divorce me, because the Pastor believed her false claims that I was abusive.

When in fact, my wife was abusive.

This Pastor drove her to the courthouse and helped her get an order of protection 13 1/2 years ago, kicking me out of my own house.

They committed perjury on every line of the paperwork they filed with the court. But since the person complaining was a woman, they believed her lies without asking for evidence.

Two weeks later my wife dropped the charges against me because our children accused her of lying and they began to tell all who would listen, "We want to live with Dad", and "Dad never abused us".

She was also terrified at the thought of going back to court asking the court to make that order permanent since I was in the process of bringing our children's pediatrician to court.

A female pediatrician who would testify that my wife was abusive and she knew it.

My wife dropped the charges against me since she feared what that pediatrician would say.

So I moved back home, then my wife moved out and she divorced me, again falsely claiming I was abusive.

And our children again told all who would listen, "Dad never abused me and I want to live with Dad".

I am in the process of re-reading that book and when I'm finished reading it I'll let everyone know.

Pastor Art

PS: There is nothing about "tough love" in 1 Corinthains chapter 13

Answer 2

i comprehend i've got mastered the means to stroll, communicate and examine. there isn't something a lot left to assessment in those fields, and that i will do all of it with finished ease. would not recommend I never stub my toe, slur some words, or hit upon a sentence now and then, yet i've got reached a element the place that's thoroughly causal. i'm not an olympic sprinter, or a public speaker, or a velocity reader -- those are all fullyyt separate skills -- yet what I discovered is plenty to get by way of existence. I never forget approximately that the martial arts are observed as an artwork, despite the fact that if or not that's an eastern interpretation, yet interior the West this does have a objective. An artwork could not be something you suited. music, portray and sculpting all have close to countless ability, yet stages of progression which you may could "grasp" to get greater effective. A black belt, as we've defined earlier on right here, is approximately having an employer expertise of the basics, or "All elementary strikes and methods, may well be utilized with prolonged rigidity and correct utility in elementary mixture." the main words right here may well be "all elementary strikes and methods" and "prolonged rigidity and correct utility". i might say there's a mastery of having discovered the standards and comprehend the thank you to place them to apply, merely not something farther from the basics. i think of human beings flow a splash too some distance with the observe, utilising it ordinarily erroneously, however the point of with ease and casually utilising what you have discovered is what they're all implying. As for the martial arts as an entire, that i've got self assurance is impossible, somewhat as an artwork.

Answer 3

I prefer tough love. So if I have to fuss and complain (be the disciplinarian), they know I'm doing cause I care. Besides, in my family, it's tradition.

Answer 4

Tough love is what goes on in my house! Probably not as tough as it should be, but I do my best!

Answer 5

all you need is love - Lennon & McCartney