2007-12-01 03:12:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my teenage daughter better not get pregnant in the first place or it would mean I failed her as a mother...
I would allow her to look at all options.. I am intelligent enough to know the BEST options are abortion or adoption.. the WORST option for her (and the baby) would be for her to keep it...
I would 100 % support what ever choice she made (if of the first two)... and never make her feel bad.. I would try to be a better parent so she doesnt make the same mistake again...
2007-12-01 03:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
No. I would never encourage anyone to get an abortion. Ever. I am pro-choice but I do believe that abortion is the last choice anyone should consider. Depending on her age I'd show her how she could raise the child [if she was older] or show her that she could give that child a great life with an older more experienced couple for adoption. In the end, it would be her decision. If she decided to get an abortion I would give her the best support possible as with all of her other options.
2007-12-01 03:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am fifteen years old and i once thought i was pregnant no I would not encourage my daughter to have an abortion because i believe that if u are grown up to do the nasty you should take care of the child. I would encourage her to look at all of her options because she has them and be 100 percent behind her no matter what she does . I would remind her that abortion can come with guilt,and regret and her to think strongly before she does anything........
2007-12-01 03:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbagumbootylicous15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I would not as I believe its murder. Not to mention that your daughter's developmental level is not one where they can adequately make rational decisions and be able to live with those choices for the rest of their lives. Many women and teenagers who have made that decision live the rest of their lives haunted by it and you don't want to be the person who encouraged your daughter to make such a choice as it will significantly damper your relationship in the future. It's a decision that can ultimately break mother-daughter relationships as well as the delicate balance of emotional well-being in the life of a teenager (or adult for that matter).
I believe if you're old enough to do the crime, then you're old enough to do the time. I would NOT under any circumstances raise the child for her (because that'll just mean momma fixes the problem and she gets to go out and repeat the action without a care) or kick her out (because she needs all of the love and support she can get from you during this time), but I would make her responsible for the care of the baby. Whether she decides to give the baby up for adoption or to take the hard road of raising it herself while completing school and finding ways to pay for all of the expenses is her choice and one, as a mother, I would support either way.
Once she's had the baby, I would drive her to the doctor and make sure that she's on birth control and hopefully willing to abstain from sexual activity until she's ready to live with the consequences again.
2007-12-01 03:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had an abortion when I was engaged, my daughter knows my story and the reason. She also knows the mental anguish I suffered and how it affected my relationship with her dad. I wouldn't want her to go through that. I would not encourage her to have an abortion, but to keep the baby.
2007-12-01 17:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by cheryl c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of given us some more info.. How old is she?? BUT..
I wouldnt encourage anyone to have an abortion. I think it is their decision. But if your talking 13 vs 17 might make a difference. I had my first son at almost 17.. My mom wanted me to have an abortion, but I am so glad I didnt. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, however I got married and lived a very hard few years.. In my opinion it was well worth it but so very hard.
2007-12-01 03:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by jag8625 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would encourage my teenage daughter to look at all the circumstances in her life and make the decision that is best for her life, and I although I would be disappointed if she chose abortion, I would still support her choice because she is my daughter and I love her unconditionally.
2007-12-01 03:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would not encourage her to have an abortion. I would explain her options to her and let her decide. If she would not have an abortion, I would help her raise it or raise it myself. I would never make my daughter feel like she had to make a certain decision. I will love her no matter what she chooses to do.
2007-12-01 03:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by princess m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. For the simple fact that at one time I had to do that, and I have always regretted it. It wasn't an easy choice for me, and if I had the chance to do it all over again I wouldn't. I had mine at 26. I knew I wouldn't be able to give the child the life it deserved and I already have an 8 year old from my ex-husband. He wasn't helping us with child support and even with 2 jobs I was still struggling. Give her a chance to make her own decision. She is really the person who has to live with the ghost of the past, not you. Be supportive in whatever decision she wants to make.
2007-12-01 03:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would speak with her like she is an adult-----after all the minute you start having sex you are an adult in my eyes----giving her all of the options she has and support her in whatever decision she chooses to make. You can only hope and encourage your children to do the right thing but you can't rule their lives
2007-12-01 03:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋