I don't have any real family close to where I live. I don't really have any close friends either. I can't stand my husband because he's cheated on me, lacks ambition and lets me pay all the hefty bills. Would you leave your husband under these conditions?
2007-12-01 02:27:05 · 18 answers · asked by sweet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be a strong confident woman! Divorce him if you are unable to forgive him, and move on with your life! xoxo
2007-12-01 02:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's so many INMATURE answers to this question it's SAD.
We can all answer this question that she's asking, is just that some of us have no common sence nor have had extreme life expereriences, that have made you WISER wich makes you more experienced into answering questions like this one.
If you can't say anything better than.....ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION....then DON'T ANSWER HER AT ALL!!!!
Now to you Sweet Desperate & Lonely Girl.
You sound like a smart girl. If it's true that your are paying all of his bills, then that means you can probably make it on your own.
Start searching......quietly......on apartments that maybe you can afford. Do you have children?..that is the question. If you do then I see why it would be hard to leave him...if he's the father of your children that is..And if he is, all you have to do is Divorce him and take him to court. He has to pay YOU one way or another if you guys have children toguether.
If you guys have no children...why are you staying if he does nothing and has cheated on you?.
Either you love him...or you fear....being alone. Don't stay just out of convenience. Does he love you? Is this something that counseling could fix? Did it just start, or has it gone on for as long as you can remember?.
You mus have a friend out there somewere hun...and you must have at least ONE family member out there. The thing that stops us is that we don't want to *bother anyone*, specially if you have children.
I know because I left my husband 4 months ago, and moved in with my family, and I have 2 girls under 6, plus I'm pregnant. My family is not easy either, and I think I've cried every day of these past 4 months. But it gave my husband and I some much needed space. And we have managed to work on things.....slowly.
So....Make the decition based on what is healthy for you and what is not. It has to be worth it to have the energy to fix it. If it's not worth it, then do some research, ask around, take the steps and slowly move on.
Good Luck to you.
Lucy
2007-12-01 03:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer, USN Wife & Mother. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would seem that if there hasn't been any change over 7 years, there would appear llittle hope of any major breakthrough now. My partner has been this way for 15 years without change and life has been miserable. I do think that there must be some reason behind this behaviour. However, I also know that with some people, their thinking and reasoning processes are decidedly disfunctional and what seems rational and sensible to them may not be by any normal human being. You must decide for yourself if his thinking is so screwed up and unreasonable that any dialogue becomes futile. If that is the case I would suggest you revert to my golden rule; You have a right to be happy and to be treated properly. If you aren't happy, chances are your kids won't be either. A home without peace is nothing but a warzone. And what's the most glaring and insidious result of war? Chronic stress. It will destroy everything. Don't play nursemaid when kids are involved. They are just too precious.
2016-04-07 01:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would! Come hell or high water I would find a way to get out even if I had to go to a womans shelter. When a man cheats on you he does not care about your health or your life and he is not worth dying for. I would get away from him somehow and find a better life without him in it! There are good people in this world and you can make your own family whoever you choose them to be. Please do not stay with a person that has no respect for you and who is down right mean and cruel to your feelings and emotions.You deserve more than what your husband is giving you and I would find away to get him out of my life.
2007-12-01 02:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your husband because you're unhappy and see now way how to make the marriage work.
It should have nothing to do with having family close to you.
I would get some counseling.....not to fix the marriage but to give you some support as you go about ending your marriage.
2007-12-01 02:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet.. there's no reason why you should stay there and deal with that ... as long as you no you gave your marriage the best that you could then don't worry ,try to find some place that you can afford and be out.. don't stay there and be miserable cause you only hurting yourself obviously he doesn't care about you cause if he did he wouldn't be doing what he's doing move on why you have a chance I'm sure there's someone out there that's better for you...
2007-12-01 02:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by redbone * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah! You deserve better! Leave that sucker and go home where you have support. You deserve better. Save up some money or ask your family for help and get the hell out of there! Good luck!
2007-12-01 02:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Janet H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes leave the *** hole fast there is so much in life better and make new friends i will be a friend just email me OK i am mom of 4 kids and love life and hate my b/f too. we got a lot in common...good luck hope to hear from you
2007-12-01 02:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to pay hefty bills while his fatazz doesn't, then who cares if you don't have family or friends near you.
Have a moving company come and take your stuff to your new pad.
2007-12-01 02:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes of course if ur not hapy then leave him life is to short to sick around somewhere u dont wanna be you will only regret it later in life.
this man seems like an **** n he will never change.
good luck huney x
2007-12-01 02:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋