I just started a new job, which means my husband and I don't see each other as much as we used to. When we are together I don't feel the heat that used to be there, don't get me wrong I love him more than anything in this world! It just seems like he's getting bored with me....is that feeling normal?
2007-12-01 02:19:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not necessarily. We can't be "Breathless" forever. We have to find time to breathe sometime. You've passed the infatuation phase. Now its time to find the "Commitment". This is the time to make your relationship grounded. My boyfriend pursued me relentelssly for a year and now that I've moved in with him, sometimes i get the feeling he's bored with me. This is our own insecurities talking to us. Men typically don't voice their thoughts and feelings as we do. If he seems distant, leave him be. He's probably sorting his thoughts. Don't take it personal.
2007-12-01 02:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marraige - This is a first natural feeling of many, many more to come during your life together...just remember you married each other because you love each other more than anyone else in the world and noone will take that away from you, so talk to your hubby, tell him how much you love him and start sending him some sweet loving texts or notes in his lunch box and girlfriend....start playing some new games that will spice things up again.... Your having a normal feeling i'm sure, your just focussing on your new job and as a woman feel like your neglecting your man, i'm sure he's just so proud of you and is waiting nice and patiently for you to get settled in your new job...
And congratulations on your recent marraige!!
2007-12-01 10:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Micky 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not normal. this is the very 1st thing u should try to keep alive in ur relationship if you want it to last more than 10years: "the heat". (or the passion, same thing)
both of u have to give effort into trying to make ur relationship work. this is the beginning of the end of a marriage. so change ur scheds so u come home from work at the same time, eat dinner at the same time and go to bed at the same time. also, schedule the same day off's so u can go out and have some fun. u need to put some effort.
also, talk to ur husband about this. he needs to know that this is how u feel. this isnt something minor. this is how failed marriages start---losing the passion. if u keep letting it go, it will be irrepairable before u know it.
2007-12-01 10:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
we will be married 8 months tomorrow....
its normal to get into a routine and not feel the passion as much as it was before.
trust me the sex life is NOT what it used to be. we are lucky with our schedules to do it once a week, but...what we do do is very special.
try scheduling a date night once a week or whenever you can. it will do wonders!
2007-12-01 10:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by ashleybredesen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and slow down. Marriage is hard to get used to, especially with a now job. Take things one at a time and focus on your marriage, it's whats most important.
2007-12-01 10:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Marisa's Mommy♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax and enjoy your marriage.
Haven't you noticed everything in life has natural ebb and flow to it? So will your marriage. Don't panic. It is fine as long as you don't make it into a problem.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
normal yes why do you think there is so much divorce? now if you want to last get some kind of ideal on how to spice it up again or you' ll be divorced like all the rest of us.....
2007-12-01 10:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its normal
2007-12-01 10:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋