im not feeling well, which is an understatement, i actually feel like ive been smacked with a bus then it reversed and then hit me again....
my ex, after 4 weeks, decided to screw with my head again, yes i am an idiot for letting him,or even listening to him, please feel free to call me an idiot ..hes already called me psychotic and delusional.He actually i think tried to make out i had some form of Delusional disorder and my babies didnt exist..so it wont matter if i add idiot to the list... and no he wont say sorry....even though he knows quite well hes wrong...
and the worst thing... because im ill and infeceted... i cant see my precious babies... they are in intensive care and i miss them soo much...
i feel really down and i just dont know how to pick myself up at the moment, normally i go and see my babies and hug them but i cant :-(
cheer me up pleaseeeeeeeeee????
2007-12-01 02:18:13 · 21 answers · asked by spongebobs biggest fan 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
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2007-12-08 23:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie, you have some good answers here. First be understanding and kind with yourself, the things that are happening in your life right now would be difficult for anyone, you are coping better than most. I was in a crap relationship a few years back and I think I was just a slow learner, should have got out sooner, but didn't, but I'm glad I had the experience because I learnt some very valuable lessons that I have used to make my life better now than it has ever been. I think about your babies everyday, be kind to yourself and get some rest, whilst you are resting your body can heal. Lots of people are with you in thought Rammie, I feel sad that this is all happening at once for you, but in the fullness of time believe it or not it will have benefits as big as the worries. Big, big hug :-)
2007-12-01 10:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Without understanding more about your situation, I can give you some advice that has helped me over the years as I have faced some of the hardest times in my life.
You are the master of your fate. You have the power to decide how you will act and react to your world. You are not a victim. No one can control you or do anything to you that you do not allow. You are whatever you want to be. If you want to be strong and incredible, then you can be. Sometimes you can feel lost and down and alone. You must tell yourself that it's natural. All people feel this way at some time. Your babies will be with you again and you need to be ready for that time. You need to focus on healing and empowerment. Decide what you want in life, visualize it...and then make it happen. Take the power away from the "ex" who is abusing it anyway.
Now, go and pamper yourself...take a soaking bath and cleanse yourself. Find a nice warm cup of tea, coffee, cocoa....and soothe yourself. Get dressed up and then look in the mirror and confirm the power and beauty within yourself.
(((((((hugs)))))))
2007-12-01 10:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
If he hadn't done a runner while you were pregnant he would know very well that the babies exist and may well have had a chance to bond with them by now.
I lived with a **** like that for several years. They are control freaks who will find something wrong with everything that you do, because they want to make you feel worthless. They only love one person, and that is themselves.
For years after i got rid of the pillock, things that he said to me or did kept popping into my head and i would think 'oh my god, did i really put up with that?'
He shows up every couple of years to see how well i am raising 'his' children (I have 2 by him) and he hasn't changed a bit. Every word that comes out of him pathetic mouth is a praise to himself. I honestly think the world would be a better place if he just dropped dead. It sounds harsh to say but this man does nothing but tell lies and cause misery to everyone he meets.
(He even told me when we met that he was dying of cancer. And that was 17 years ago!)
Sorry dear, but save yourself from years of unhappiness, and kick his sorry @ss as far as you can, while you have the strength.
2007-12-01 12:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by lilmissdisorganised 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't exes just know when your down, and use it to thier full advantage? It is hard, because you obviously had strong feelings for him once, and it is hard to imagine somebody you care/d for can be deceitful, disruptive, deluded and an outright liar, but once the truth is out, there's no denying it from now on, calm yourself with the thought that you are a better woman for the knowledge, and know you won't be caught off gaurd again. Hope the soup etc works and you are back to your full strength again soon! I would love to cheer you up, but aint it funny how men have one answer for everything?? If you get my gist! lol xx
2007-12-01 12:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen hun I understand. The Holiday's tend to make everything more emotional. Why don't you start filling out some Christmas card's & send them. Get your mind off thing's. Call an old friend. You need to keep yourself busy my friend. Play some X~Mas music & get yourself in the mood. Baking cookie's are one sure way to get the house smelling good. I love Pumpkin cookie's. Go to Marthastewart.com & get some free resipie's.Merry X~Mas & love yourself. Here's a Big ol giant HUG fom all of us XOXOXO
2007-12-01 10:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Stormie Raincloud 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what an idiot (you're ex) I can't believe how selfish some people are.
You are better off without him.
Rick R speaks absolute sence, and I would follow his example. Concentrate on getting your self better so that you get to see your babies sooner. Resign yourself to bed and watch some of your favourite movies, eat all the chocolate you deserve, and just take time to be selfish to yourself. Me time is most crucial to your wellbeing and your babies well being.
2007-12-01 10:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Orphelia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is all just a huge test of your will. Overcome it and nothing can stop you. Let it get the best of you and you set an example for people that dont believe in you, to be right.
Never let anything overcome you, always stand up and fight for your family. When you think of your babies, they feel your thoughts. Smile and think of your babies, it will make you feel better too.
2007-12-01 10:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sorry to hear that. Hey, look on the bright side, the triplets will probally be home in a few weeks. Have you names picked for them? Things may be though right now but it will get better. Best of luck.
2007-12-01 10:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
damn girl , your having a bad day of it .
idot is not a word i would use for you , maybe gullable , but not idiot
i hope your babies get out of ICU real soon and you are fit enough to visit them soon
grab some chocholates and your fav movie to cheer you up
all the best
Fr3d
2007-12-01 10:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Fr3dinbed 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ahh hun i'm sorry for u hope u get better and get back to c your lil darlings asap! the guy is a idiot and u are so much stronger than him ur a very brave girl and should b very proud of yourself!!!hope i cheered u up hun much love!!!
2007-12-01 10:45:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋