What do you do if you share a house with a very loud and noisy person who keeps your baby from sleeping?

Question

...who always says that if a baby is fast asleep, nothing could wake him up.
So now it's the baby's fault that he keeps being awakened by slammed doors, stammering footsteps and the crashing of stuff being thrown to the floor?

Answer 1

after being in the amniotic sac, outside noises can be pretty scarey for awhile. Sounds to me like your b/f or roomy is pretty selfish. Sounds like he is co-dependant as well, they are always blaming someone else for their own personal problems. Or could be that he's feeling blamed + is retallying back. Jealous or feeling left out ? One thing you could tell him - your baby couldn't possibly be making all those noises lol. Like slamming the door or throwing things on the floor lol sorry I was just picturing it.

few suggestions :
* well you could ask him to quieten down
* if that doesn't work then play some relaxing music in the babies room to block out other noises.
* I can't explain it but some babies sleep thru noises, my 3 month old grand-daughter is one of them. But not all babies are like this, some are light sleepers.
* seek counselling on baby care + what to expect from a baby. This 'might' help him to understand.
* get a new boyfriend/room-mate ?

Answer 2

Its not true that if a baby is "fast asleep nothing could wake him up". My 3rd baby was in SCBU (special care baby unit) and visitors were constantly "shushed" by staff and there were notices all around to remind people that babies' hearing is vastly more sensitive than an adult. It is actually quite dangerous to "suddenly wake" a sleeping baby not to mention thoughtless and unnecessary, if the sudden loud noise is extremely close to the baby you could even damage his delicate eardrums. Any loud noise sends a small electrical jolt to the baby's brainstem, which can cause them to jerk if not completely awake. Its not a nice thing for them at all.

This person sounds as if they resent the baby being there as there is a new arrival that is now the centre of attention! You shouldn't have to constantly creep around when baby is sleeping, as it good for them to get used to household sounds, but not the kind you describe. You will have to speak to them quite firmly and say that you will not tolerate such excessive noise around the baby (you also need to rest when the baby does) and it is to stop, NOW. Best of luck, but stick to your guns or you'll have a very fractious unhappy baby and you'll be at your wits end trying to cope. All the best.

Answer 3

Tell them that babies really do need lots of sleep, especially when they are newborn, and that all the noise upsets you and the baby. Ask them if they can try to close the doors quietly and not throw stuff to the floor. Also, if you can, you may want to move the baby's crib to a part of the house that the person rarely goes to or away from the main source of the noise (example: if the baby's room is next to the kitchen and that person always makes a bunch of noise in the kitchen, move the baby to a room as far away from the kitchen as possible.)

Answer 4

Tell the roommate that the baby needs a certain amount of sleep and that if he doesn't get that, he'll keep you up all night because he's cranky or whatever. Your roommate needs to quiet down. I definitely would not stand for that if it were my baby. And by the way, the baby is helpless and depends on his parents for care...IT'S NOT his fault that he can't sleep!!!

A good way to put the shoe on the other foot is to make a lot of NOISE while the roommate is asleep and see how they like being woken up because of all the noise!
It might be a wake up call! (no pun intended) ;)

Answer 5

I'd highly recommend reading "Codependent No More" By Melody Beattie as there are a lot of strategies and advice in this book for dealing with people like this.

http://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025

Also, I'd recommend "Bradshaw On: The Family" by John Bradshaw and "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. All of these books have great advice for dealing with people like this. Good Luck.

Answer 6

noise is good for babies when they r sleeping! it is not a good idea to creep around a sleeping baby because they will get used to this and will wake with the slightest noise!

Try putting a children's story on for him as he goes to sleep or some soft music! keep it on until he wakes up or you go to bed! this way it will drown out the noise your house mate is making and will get him more used to noise!

as for your house mate you need to talk to them and say it is fine most of the times but between certain hours would it be possible for them to quieten down?

hope this helps you!!

Answer 7

Tell them to be a little more courteous and that they are waking the baby. If they don't respect that hae them move out or you move out yourself.

My sister is very loud when she comes over to visit and she is not aware of it. She's a little hard of hearing so what sounds loud to us barely even fazes her. I've brought it up with her before, I always feel bad b/c she doesn't know she was being loud, she tries to be quieter but she just can't hear all that well.

Answer 8

i think you should tell the person to keep it down, or when they are asleep you are gonna slam doors, stomp around the house and crash things on the floor to see how they like it..
Yes its nice to have babies that can sleep through things, my duaghter was around kids screaming and playing and dogs barking since the day i brought her home, so she was able to sleep through it, but if your daughter keeps getting woken up, its because these noises are startling her.... tell him to knock it off.

Answer 9

depends on the situation. like me liv with in laws and cant get a concil house till we get on the top of the list keep telling them to be shh. if not find somewere else of if its a loger kick erm out.

Answer 10

While it is indeed a good idea to have some background noise for your child while he's sleeping this is ridiculous. Tell them to quiet down!!