My husband and i have done very mean things to each other. He ignored me and his daughters when he went into military. No calls maybe 3 in 4 months. I wasn't invited to basic training graduation. I was really hurt because i made it possible my family told me he used me for a greencard and i believed it i reported him. i talked to him the other nite because he was in town he said when i called and asked about the money amount thats when he got mad but i didn't complain but the sargent i think made it look that way he claims thats why he treated me bad If this is true this could be a big missunderstanding we talked about it in a hotel the other nite as he is in town. It was sad because he said he missed me and i told him i did too and wished we could work it out he said he can't trust me and i can't trust him either what if he left and ignored me and my daughters again? I think he is embarassed to his family now how can he go back with someone that tried to get him deported?
2007-12-01 01:45:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i told him i'm his first family because i'm his wife. It would be embarassing for me to go back to someone that everyone think used me for a greencard. Well we "together" and he said we are still getting divorced but we can meet at a hotel and do this untill we are divorced. This has broken my heart. After i started to cry what can i do does he love me or is trying to use me why wouldn't he just go do this with someone els maybe he can't be with me because of his family?
2007-12-01 01:48:28 · update #1
The next day he told me he would call me when he wanted to see me because his phone card only hads a hundred mins.I think he was talking in front of his family because he was rude to me and to them he has to make like he hates me because other times i call he is very nice. i have to do this with my family too. It 's sad because he is 35 and me 30 and we have to sneak around like 15yr olds. i hate that he is so proud or maybe he is just so hurt by what i did me too but why would we sleep together especially if he claimed just a few days before he hated me and wanted to smash my face in court! That was after i took his truck with a police escort. So much has happened on both sides i'm SHOCKED we ended up in bed together?? since this happened i'm hurt more.
2007-12-01 01:55:19 · update #2
This calls for a real therapist - not average people - there's alot of problems here and the marriage is basically over - flight or fight!
2007-12-01 02:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly enough it seems that he used you for his selfish purpose, get a green card. He's not showing you any kind of love or respect, and you know what, don't cry (I know it sounds easy to say) but get your courage together, he has hurt you in so many ways. Also, you mention "his" daughters, are they yours too? If they're not, could be a small chance that he still have a wife in his country and that's why he's acting this way to get a divorce so he can bring his wife here, believe me, it's been happening a lot with other men.
If you can probe to the INS that he married you to obtain a green card, that he's not interested in living a married life and making things very hard for you so you give him a divorce, then do what has to be done, you deserve better and he deserves going back to his family... to his country.
2007-12-01 10:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you and you did the right thing in reporting him.
If the marriage did not last for some determined amount of time according to the government then his greencard can be revoked and he would be asked to leave.
For your sake I wouldn't give a **** what he tells his family about you, just take care of yourself and your children and for your own protection seek advice from a lawyer and never allow yourself or your children out of the country to visit him if he is deported or if he asks. There's too many stories out there of mothers sending their kids to see daddy in some country and never seeing them again.
2007-12-01 10:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jesus christ boo get over him you keep asking and saying the say old questions, he has made ity clear he doesn't want you or his kids move on find someone who will be a father and husband you deserve
2007-12-01 10:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by badgirlsbadboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH that has to hurt...i mean people do fall out of love and its reality we just need to face it he may love you but just not be in love with you...your not dead i suppose you go out and date...
2007-12-01 09:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, it's over. Move on, make better choices next time....
2007-12-01 09:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he does not love you. hard reality to face.
2007-12-01 09:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deport him, he doesn't deserve to be american.
2007-12-01 10:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋