My husband and I have 2 small kids together, and he never takes either one of them when he leaves.I just woke up about 2 hrs. ago and the first thing that he does is get dressed so he can leave by himself, when the kids and I have been stuck at home for 2 wk.s because our truck WAS broke down. Sometimes I think that he thinks the world revolves around him..Do you think that it's wrong that he hardly ever includes his family?
2007-12-01 01:38:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is very selfish for your husband to do this. Is he the only one bringing in money? Let me say that I have been through this. I WORKED at home taking care of 2 little ones that were under 2 yrs apart on top of taking care of the household & going to school full-time. I was literally exhausted & yet hubby found time to play video games, go paintballing, go mountain biking, shooting, whatever. I was so livid. Back then we did not have the money for all his hobbies nor did we have a money for a babysitter outside of when we were both in classes, so I was stuck doing it all. It was very lonely because I felt the world was on my shoulders. My husband's excuse was that I did not work. That's such a load of crap. Anyone who has stayed home with children knows how much harder that is than to go out & work for money. Stay at home moms have a thankless job. It's the hardest job out there! You really need to get him to take care of the kids once in a while. He may have the mentality that my husband had & sometimes it takes a rude awakening to get through to them. Thankfully, they can change, but a serious heartfelt discussion with your husband is long overdue!
2007-12-01 01:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's unfair and wrong. I used to be married to someone like this. I'm not anymore. His feelings were hurt when the kids would give me a hug and a kiss before bedtime every night and they wouldn't go "find" him in the house to do the same to him? They weren't stupid.
I find that there are a great number of men who do think the world revolves around them and their needs. It's fine and much needed to have SOME time alone, but it sounds like he's gone off the deep end with this. I'm sorry :(
2007-12-01 01:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Smile :) !! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's wrong, and you see I'm the first person who thinks every spouse has a right to some time for themselves, but two weeks and he can't wait to get out of the house and does it before you get up to do so... he's living a singles life with the benefits of having a family, and how long has he been doing this.. it's totally unfair, you really need to have a serious conversation with him and make your right and your children clear, you all need him to be a dad full time.
2007-12-01 01:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he really does think the world revolves around him. Everybody deserves a little "me time", but he is just selfish and given your situation, it shows how little he cares about you and your family. He takes you for granted, assuming you will always be there and he can come and go as he pleases. I don't like these kinds of guys because they usually don't get with the program (if at all) unless they get a wake up call of some sort.
2007-12-01 01:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's all about him huh? You are a doormat and need to put a stop to his selfish behavior. Tell him he has a family and if he can't be bothered to spend time with them, then when he decides to return they might not be there. You need to Cherish the ones you love and if you don't then why stick around. Don't give me the he is a good husband and dad speech because a good man stays with his family during his free time. Make changes or leave...
2007-12-01 01:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes i do think its unfair!!. I think you should talk to him about it and tell him it bothers you, He should want to spend quality time with his wife and kids. if he gets to go out and do things on his own then you should take a day for yourself two.
Try planning something that all of you can do togther to show him that family time is good for everyone even him!!
i hope this helps... tell him how you feel !!
2007-12-01 01:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That depends on what he's going to do. From what you're describing, yes, it seems wrong. He should be including his children, and his wife, in his activities. If not only to give the kids exposure to society, than to give his wife time to herself, or company. It's critical to a child's development to see their parents interaction with each other, and to learn healthy relationships between a couple.
2007-12-01 01:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think your right, he needs to spend more time with all of his family. The world doesn't evolve around just one person when you have 3 more people in your life. I am 31 and married and I spend every minute I can with my wife and daughter.
2007-12-01 01:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by christliebben 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is VERY unfair, he's being very selfish and thinking ONLY of himself. Your home with the kids all the time and you deserve some time to yourself, and some adult time with other adults.
He needs to be a man and a father and live up to his responsibilities and help take care of the kids.
2007-12-01 01:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is wrong and you need to address it. If you have and it was ignored do it again..Eventually this is going to put a strain on your relationship with him if you do not come to an agreement. It sucks believe we all know..this too well..It would be a beautiful gift to you as well for him to spent quality time with the children and you have for yourself...
2007-12-01 01:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by !@#$% 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋