I'm a teenager (a guy) who knows this 13 year old boy (a guy) who came to me and asked me if I masturbated or if I've ever orgasmed before. I already knew him from previous interactions, where he ussualy comes up to me and tells stories or jokes about random things or just talks about himself. He'd touch me a lot, frequently poking me, tripping me, hitting me and bumping into me either while he's talking or afterwards. There are also times when his hands seem to brush or glide along my body, either on my back, pelvis or chest, and I can't tell if they're accidents or subtle attempts to 'feel' me. He's asked me a few personal questions (like do I have a girlfriend or have I had sex), and talks about sex ed in school sometimes. What does this mean? What should I do? How do I deal with this? Should I talk to him about sex and give him 'the talk'? How do I identify what this is and help him deal with this in a healthy, responsible and appropriate way?
2007-12-01 00:53:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I probably should have mentioned I never told him anything personal, and I certainly don't want to get 'frisky' with him. Although I don't approve or like this behavior, I do sympathize with him, since I'm not that much older than him and I can relate to what he's going through. I'm just wondering how to go about reassuring him and helping him realize himself without offending him or putting him down.
2007-12-01 07:11:43 · update #1
Well..these things might not be an accident, he might be gay and not know it or just exploring...it is never your job to talk to him about sex..he has parents that is there job...just play it cool...be his firend and dont judge him..
2007-12-01 01:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by billie072001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, don't give him 'the talk' - that's not your responsibility. If he makes you feel uncomfortable, then avoid talking about subjects like that. If he asks you straight out, tell him you don't like talking about stuff like that, that it's personal, or that it's none of his business. Other than that, you can't do much else other than avoid him, really.
2007-12-01 09:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His questions are completely inappropriate so you don't need to answer them just because he asked. He does sound like he might be attracted to you though and trying to see if you respond. Next time he tries to cop a feel just jokingly say "keep your hands to yourself buddy"!!
2007-12-01 09:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be attracted to you sexually...
Its never your job to discuss sex with anyone. You certainly dont have to talk to him about anything.
Regardless of who like who, its not appropriate for him to be touching you and talking about sexual things, if talking to him and telling him to stop doesnt curb his activity you need to talk to an adult about it.
2007-12-01 09:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋