When one looks at so many turbulent relationships in marriage especially....?
how is it that when it comes to love relationships its rarely 'mind over matter'? why is it hardly ever a meeting of truley compatible souls? or do we change so much in a lifetime that people do not recognise eachother any more?
2007-11-30 23:03:34 · 4 answers · asked by ziffa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People change, and people in the 21st century are conditioned not to fight to keep the one they marry but to cut the tie if the partner becomes abusive, drug dependent or otherwise undesirable.
Sad to say the only time it's love is during the prime. I'm divorced twice and 300 pounds, funny and intelligent, and the ladies won't get near me now unless I get rich.
2007-11-30 23:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do change over the course of a life time. The basic personality traits are still the same. But expectations, values, habits, and ideas change because these issues are based on time and experience. I think truly compatible souls meet all the time - the situation just doesn't stay that way in many cases.
2007-11-30 23:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Derail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. People change. I've bumped into my school best friends, and frankly couldn't carry the coversation forward because we had changed so much. I think marriage is a pre-historic institution, when people lived thirty or forty years only and didn't change all that much in their lifetime. Also, with internet, tv, newspapers etc., the scope to change is much more. So is the chance of finding a genuinely more compatible person. All this creates choppy waters for a marriage.
2007-12-01 01:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Whisperer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People allow all the 'outside influences' in life to shadow the love that brought them together. Instead of helping each other through the troubled times, they chose to judge and blame. Loving is easy; living is the harder part.
2007-12-01 03:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋