i need help i still dont have the right answer should i tell her or not im know im ready to tell her and i have a good relation ship but i dont know how to tell her please help me!
2007-11-30 22:56:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just go for it. If it helps : I bet she's already got her suspicions. When I finally got together the courage to come out, everybody said - yes, we guessed. Which made the whole thing a lot less dramatic than I'd been dreading.
2007-11-30 23:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by mouseless 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres how I did it. (Please note that it may have been easier for me because my family is used to gay people. I have 6 gay aunts and uncles.)
First, I made sure that my mom met all of my gay friends, so I could make sure that she was okay with us hanging out.
Then, I made a point to voice my opinions. Constantly. I had always been a huge gay rights supporter at school, but had never really spoken up at home. So I'd come home and complain that someone was called a bad name for being gay or talk about the debate I got into during History over gay marriage.
Pretty soon, my mom was practically expecting it. She jokingly said one night "when are you going to come out of the closet" so I told her "I'm not in the closet, Mom. Everyone knows I'm Bi."
Your mom may not ask you like mine did. But you don't have to spring it on her all at once. Let her get used to the idea before you come right out and say it.
2007-12-01 05:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by I_Ride_Catbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go to the gay center and ask for someone to talk to . You want to be able to confide in someone you can trust and who won't judge you. If you are still living under your parents' roof, you want to check out how they feel about he gay issue. Bring up the subject without mentioning your own feelings. If their reaction is no tgood, you need to make some plans. Keep the news to yourself until you're old enough to move out.
Make some plan to stay with someone if the news doesn't go over well with them.
Parents don't always know how to react to the news and may want to throw you out on your rear. You'll need a safe place to go. So check out friends or family you can trust.
COntact you gay center for help and also check out PFLAG. The org can get info for your folks in order to help them understand better and be more supportive. But , in the meantime, make a plan of action for the worst case scenario. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
My best wishes go with you.
HUGS!!! to my little brother -- think of me as your older lesbain aunt
2007-11-30 23:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing is that you are ready. When the time is right, you will know. Two years ago (when I told my mom), I just blurted it out and she just sort of shrugged. Our relationship was strained a bit just after that, but now our relationship is great. Just make sure that you are ready, and I wish you the best of luck. :)
2007-12-01 04:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna - Adopt Me Angelina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carry around ur mom slightly lot than usual, then try 2 communicate distinctive concerns and act as though not something ve got here approximately and he or she wnows not something, then if u see that she isn't speaking wid u like she used 2 communicate till now, then u ask her whatz incorrect and why is she not responding 2 her, if she tells u what she found out then u extra advantageous ve solid solutions 4 her question and if she talks wid u like she additionally dont comprehend something then enable da rely be like a undesirable dream, only dont press that rely infront of her.
2016-12-10 08:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confess to her. U'll be more relaxed then n she'll surely respect ur sexuality! Gud luck!! Do it now, u have to tell her some day or the other, n it wud b hurting for her if she came to know this from someone else than from u, so do it now buddy!
2007-11-30 23:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way is to just tell her and be over with it, you have to get prepared for the reaction, but the sooner you do it the faster it will be over, you should also schedule your mom to a mom to child talk then tell her and ask her for help maybe?
2007-11-30 23:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nobody_now 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
quickly like ripping off a plaster try and get her by herself obviosly just have a heart to heart with her, shes your mum shell understand
2007-11-30 23:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard to understand the whole bi-sexual thing. Make a choice-one or the other-and stick with it.
2007-11-30 22:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by greatlakesdude 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sit down and simply tell her of your feelings in the matter of your sexuallity ~~
2007-11-30 22:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋