This guy and I used to like each other. Then he said we'd be better as friends. Then he liked another girl. He always talked to me about her. Then I started liking this guy. Whenever I talk about him he says "but we're closer and more comfortable with each other..." Why does he say stuff like that? I know for sure he doesn't like me like that anymore, but is he just being a protective guy friend? We have gotten really close as friends.
2007-11-30 19:28:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm sorry to say but this guy is one of those people who wants his cake and eat it, too.
He has decided that he doesn't want you as his girlfriend. Okay. You've accepted that and moved on. So, you think, has he. He's involved with another girl and you're okay with that. This is healthy and good.
Then, as soon as you show interest in another guy, he tries to deflect your interest back to him. This is a sign that, although he doesn't want you as a girlfriend, he doesn't want anyone else to have you, either. This isn't healthy or good.
To set this record straight you need to set some clear boundaries with this guy or he will be forever running your life and you will never get involved with anyone else again. Tell him you value his friendship, but you enjoy your time with this other guy as well. Tell him that he does not need to make comments about how close or comfortable you are with each other as this should have no bearing on your new relationship. If he has a problem with that, then he needs to re-evaluate his friendship with you.
2007-11-30 19:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by dstluke 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Somegirl
Smiles there is a very thin line between g/f and b.f. It's hard for a guy to really become friends with a girl and when they do it's for life. Yes hi adores you but in such a way that he feels if he makes out with you his best girl friend relationship is over. So he keep it more a friends then getting closer. If i was you test the waters without letting him know. You are the girl and have all the power use it,do something different with you're self. Wear something different when you ou knows he's coming over, hence perfume or a little make up as skirt instead of jeans. Then watch his reaction and look for his body language.
Hugs and Good Luck
2007-11-30 20:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to say .... why don;t you ask HIM?
maybe since you two have remained friends and he tasted the grass on the other side of the fence and found it to be no greener, NOW he wants you.
It has been my observation that often people only want what they don't have. Or, to "play with the toy in the other kid's hands"...even though when they had that toy they dropped it on the ground and went off looking for a different toy. THEN, once a new kid picks up the old toy, the other kid remembers, HEY! I had that toy first! And wants it back.
Like that, ya know?
2007-11-30 19:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cid Young 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, actually male and female had different emotions. Female is emotional than male. I think your guy friend, treated you only as a friend. Dont expect too much from him more than friendship,.The only thing you should know that he likes you or he loves you is when he say to you the word I LOVE YOU. I thought he's telling you everything about the girl coz your his trusted friend. Just like he consider you as a bestfriend. Dont be confused, much better you know where you stand from his life. And at the end it wont hurt your feelings.
2007-11-30 20:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by angelic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you doesn't mean that he wants to share your attention with another guy. Seems to me that he's jealous, and wants you all to himself on his terms. Either that or he want to keep you waiting in the background in case the thing with the other girl doesn't work out, he probably thinks he can start something back up with you. I'm sure you don't want to be the fallback girl... You need to just do what makes you happy and don't let that guy string you along.
2007-11-30 19:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he's talking about other girls to you, then he probably likes you, -- "but we're closer and more comfortable with each other..." -- what does that mean? he probably likes you and doesn't want to see you going out with other guys.
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we're wierd like that - if we can't make up our minds, or feel really close to someone.
My guess is that he's either finding it difficult to tell you that he likes you, or he likes you and another girl and is confused.
2007-11-30 19:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, he has a little thing for the girl and a big thing for you.
Or maybe he's being a over-protextive friend, just caring about your feelings.
2007-12-01 02:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is still used to trying to get you to like him. its probably just a habit type thing. next time he says that, just ask him if he likes you. if hes all like " umm no way!!!!" while blushing, he likes you.
if he like honestly says no, then go ahead and keep talking about the guy you like, i guess, he'll just have to put up with it.
also, most guys hate it when the girl they used to like keeps talking to them about who they like and stuff.
so maybe you should keep that sort of stuff for your girl friends
2007-11-30 20:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he likes you but doesn't konw how to tell you since you guys have become such good friends.
2007-11-30 20:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by kt_lang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is both being a good friend and he is beginning to like you again
2007-11-30 19:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by Leesha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋