I have to go see a counselor and every time I go see her I usually go in really happy and by the time I go out I'm ready to spit nails. She never actually let's me talk and always talks in third person. Also she spends most of the session telling me about everyone else and how I'm so well of and it never makes me feel better just worse.
Are all counselors like this?
2007-11-30 17:42:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Find yourself a new counselor. You shouldn't come out feeling worse than when you went in. You should come out with realizations and more awareness of yourself which has nothing to do with anyone else's life. And, you need to be doing the talking - she should be guiding, not lecturing.
2007-11-30 18:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, defiantly not. A real counselor knows to listen more than talk. The purpose for counseling is so the individual seeking help can 1: find out what is happening in that persons life, 2 find out why that something is happening, and 3 how to possibly resolve it. Counselors defiantly shouldn't have the person feeling bad because that really defeats the purpose of getting "help". I'm not sure what your situation is, but if you just need someone to listen I'm always on yahoo messenger.
2007-11-30 17:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by b c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Not all counselors are like this...in fact these are signs of a very bad counselor and you need to find a good one to help you through your problems. When you go into counseling, the focus should be on YOU, and what YOU have to say. The counselor should guide you and give you some feedback, of course, but they should keep their opinions and personal judgements to themselves.
2007-11-30 18:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
Tell her what you just wrote here, and ask her to please work with you to make your sessions more productive. Give her another few sessions to see if things get better. If they don't, then find another counselor. You may have to meet with several to find a good "fit".
You say you "have to go", so you'll need to explain to whoever has sent you to this counselor that you aren't trying to avoid the counseling, but that this woman just isn't helping you.
2007-11-30 17:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by SheyneinNH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counselors are not "one size fits all" and you need to find a better fit. You might share with her that you don't feel the sessions are benefiting you as they should and see if she asks for or shows some improvement, but otherwise you should keep looking for someone who can provide a basis for help and improvement when and where you may need it.
Best wishes --
2007-11-30 17:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by chequamegon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No take it from some one who's been in therapy on and off for the last 40 years, you need a new therapist one who's invested in working with you. Not hearing them self's talk!! A therapist is supposed to let you do most of the talking and them the listening. Take yesterday for example when my psychiatrist came over, I did most of the talking unless he asked me to clarify some thing for him or because I'd asked his opinion on the issue that we were talking about. I also see a psychologist and for the most part it's the same thing. They let me talk unless they have to clarify something or I ask them a question.
2007-11-30 20:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋