When a someone tries starts to harrass you, how do you avoid showing weakness and make them back off?

Answer 1

yelling right in their face is a deterrent.

or just leaving.

Answer 2

I have been through numerous forms of harrassment and i can tell you different people act different ways. For instance if someone is harrassing you you confront them alone, some will stand up to you 'very few' and most will back down and act like a different person.

If you try to use physical violence back some will be deathly afraid of you and never mess with you again and some will escalate their harrassment towards you.

The ignore treatment sometimes works and sometimes dosent. If they are intent on making your life a nightmare they will esclaate the harrassment. If not, they may forget.

My best advice would be to go to a superior, they rarely mess with the 'big guys' in command and may stop it for awhile. In this instance they either stop completely and forget about you or they stop for a certain period of time then later try it again.

My best advice would be them being turned in or removing yourself from their prescense and leaving the scene.- that really stops it and if they attempt to harrass you after that you just brush it off or you contact the law.

Answer 3

Stay calm. Try and listen to whatever it is theyre harrassing you about. Is their harrassment warranted? Did you do ANYTHING to deserve it? If so, be humble and apologize. Be sincere. If not and theyre out of line, first try mirroring what they do. If the get in your face, get in their face. It usually takes a whole lot before anyone actually takes that first swing. And whatever you do, let them. They go to jail. Not you. Even if you beat them down. Youre protecting yourself. And remember this. People dont like to fight(not physically anyways) if its not theirs to fight about. So if theyre just being a bully for no reason without a real cause, just blow them off. They arent likely to do a thing. Its why we lost the Vietnam war. And this one. People dont fight with a vengance unless its theirs.

Answer 4

Don't let the bully think it's OK to pick on you. Say how you feel. Bullies are "trespassers" who need to be moved back into their own territory. Sometimes telling them, to f**K off can do the trick .
Turn Insults Into Compliments. Reply as if the bully has just said something nice. If the bully said, "You have cooties," you could reply, "Thank you. What a sweet thing to say." This takes the bully off guard. After a while, the bully leaves, because he is not getting the reaction he wants.

Ask Questions. For every insult, ask a question. For example, if the bully says, "You are ugly," you could say, "I guess that's your opinion, but why do you want to tell me that?" For every response, ask another question.

Agree. The bully has nothing to fight about if you aren't disagreeing. If the bully says you have a big nose, you could say, "Why, yes, my nose is a bit large. How sweet of you to notice." This kind of response often surprises the bully, who expects you to get hurt or mad. When they can't get the reaction they want, the "game" is no longer worth playing.

Answer 5

Speak very firmly and just ask them to stop. I think by avoiding and running shows signs of weakness. You don't say if this a job related or personal. If it is personal and it does not stop, you should go to your local police department and file a complaint. If it is your job, you should go to Labor Relations or the Equal Opportunity Office and speak to someone. If it is your job, I would not go in to file a complaint but ask for direction to handle it. If it is not resolved, then I would file a complaint.

Answer 6

i need to send for help : 911 , the manager of the apartment, I am not concerned with showing weakness. they back off when the police explain that harassment is an assault and they can go to jail/ I leave them no doubt i will press charges and then I go and get a restraining order.

Answer 7

Sternly say back the f%@$ off, for lack of a better word. If they still harass you, 'do onto others'. if this is violence then I would avoid it but self defense is another thing.

don't let people step all over you.

Answer 8

Try avoiding them and act like you have an attitude everytime you seem them,like you get annoyed or something when you see that person

Answer 9

Stay calm. Face them. Most bullies back down when they realize they cant rattle you. If you give more specifics I might have more specific advice.

Answer 10

always try not to feel scare around them and act like normal, don't make them disturb your activity

Answer 11

Very simple. Look at them, then look slowly up and down their body and sneer!

Or if yer an an Amercian shoot em!