Im nursing my new baby. I have done this with my other 3 too, but they have never become this attached. She wont let anybody hold her. If they do, she cries, and stops as soon as she gets back in my arms. I know my Hubby is hurt. He cant hold her too long either. He tries so hard to make her stop crying, and he looks so hurt. What should I do?
2007-11-30 16:17:05 · 8 answers · asked by SR 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I do pump and let him feed her, but as soon as she is burped, she looks for me. I had a business trip that I went to, and my hubby caught hell. She cried herself to sleep the whole 2 days. When I came home, he was on the porch rocking her while she was crying, and she stopped as soon as I grabbed her.
2007-11-30 16:34:37 · update #1
Babies usually get more attached to whoever cares for them the most, we had a similar problem to our little one, so I took a few days off, used a breast pump, and had my husband take over for a few days, i didn't totaly ignore her. For the first day or so it was a little frustrating because all she did was cry but by the end of it she was more willing to go with him.
Another thing that i relised when i did this was i didn't leave her enough. I was always around and she was always in my arms, so i started taking her to my mother inlaws every evening for an hour or so, and bonus she got to spend time with her Grandma and my husband and I had our alone time once a day. maybe she just needs to be a way from you more?
2007-11-30 16:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is now 11 months and for the last 2 months she has started going through this mommy stage. She sees or hears me and starts to say mama mama... if I dont give her my attention right then she will starting screaming mama mama. lol
My husband will be trying to feed her and if she catches a glimpse of me she will start throwing a little fit.
What I have been trying to do is when my hubby is playing with her or feeding her I try to stay out of the picture... let them have their time. I think its just a phase but yet enjoying every minute of it.
2007-12-01 00:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants you because she has been in your womb for nine long months, she heard your voice and she is nursing off of you. she is too little to know what she wants at this point. she just knows that she can trust you and she loves you. i understand that your hubby is hurt, so you also need to let them have their bonding time. when she is crying, instead of watching him try to comfort her, walk away and let him do it. im sure if he feels that there is no end, he will call for you. at this age, they are learning who they can trust and who comforts them. and you have a daughter, tell your hubby not to be to sad, she is going to be daddys little princess very shortly. the mommy phase doesnt last for too long with girls. good luck!
2007-12-01 00:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by ProudMommy_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold her when she wants you to hold her and try to be near your husband whenever possible. At this age you kind of have to cater to the baby. You are not going to spoil her and the more you fight her the more likely she will have more separation anxiety later. Let her gain some trust in you and feel comfortable in the fact that you are not leaving her and she will start to let go. When your husband holds her maybe he can put something that smells like you on his shoulder, like drape one of your shirts that you have worn and not washed yet over his shoulder. She will feel comforted by your smell.
All babies have different temperaments so it is possible for her to react differently than your first two.
2007-12-01 00:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some babies are just more attached than others. Right now, you're her world - in 6 months or a year she might be a total daddy's girl.
2007-12-01 00:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by daa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answerer... she is just used to you, that's all. And by you not making her get used to her daddy, you are just making it worse. Hand her over to him, take a break and don't interfere in any way. Let *him* figure out how *he* can make her stop crying. I'm sure it will end up being a different approach than yours and I'm also sure it will work out fine. She just needs to bond with your husband that's all...
2007-12-01 00:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
pump and let hubby feed her in a bottle for some bonding. let him change her diaper etc...otherwise, let him know how happy he should be that their baby loves mama..
2007-12-01 00:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Walk away when you give the baby to him, make sure she can't see or hear you.
2007-12-01 00:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋