My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We live together and are in a pretty serious relationship and often talk about marriage. We don't have sex very often because I am very afraid of ever getting pregnant. When we do have sex, we use condoms and are very careful... but I still get paranoid. My period is very irregular so every day I don't have it, I get worried about the possibility of being pregnant. (Which is why we don't have sex altogether... to avoid the paranoia). I always think that if we ever slip up, we wouldn't be able to support a child and getting an abortion would hurt my chances at having a baby in the future.
We arouse each other sometimes and get close to having actual sex, but I start thinking too much and we never get that far. He has been very understanding so far, but I know he wants to have sex and I do too but I am just afraid of the consequences... Do you think I am being selfish by holding out?
How do I get rid of this constant paranoid feeling?
2007-11-30 15:22:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Being responsible is not being paranoid. If you can't support a baby right now then you're being responsible. But there are more reliable forms of birth control than condoms that might help you feel more relaxed about sex. Go see a gynecologist and get something that works for you.
2007-11-30 15:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to say that I commend you for thinking about that before it happens. So often, people don't and that is why they end up having unwanted babies. Secondly, I would get on regular birthcontrol. Don't just use condoms, although that is great that you do. Get on the pill or something that is good for you. Then you won't have to worry so much - condoms can always break. Thirdly, maybe you have an anxiety disorder, IF you worry all the time about everything. I only say that because I do have that and I am on medication for it. If you are anxious all the time no matter what it is, visit a doctor.
But really, get on the pill or the form of BC that is best for you. Your boyfriend will get sick of it eventually. If you need to talk, feel free to email me.
Take Care
2007-11-30 23:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think you are being selfish. you are just not prepared of the consequences and that you are being very careful. I would suggest that ou take oral contraceptive pills. it does not only prevents you from getting pregnant, it makes your skin looks good too. but before that, you should see to it that you do not have migraine or is not hypertensive.
I have the same case as you. was scared of getting pregnant so I decided to take pills. its more safer than condom as long as you take it the ssame time everyday. But, before I took the pills, I went to my gynecologist to sheck why I have irregular period and I found out I have poyycystic ovaries. well mot a serious problem at all. haha=) I was prescribe metformine and not pills because I have migraine but I was too stuborn and still decided to take the pills and I feel fine until now.=) as what they say, those wh are in medical profession are the one who is the worst patient.=)
2007-11-30 23:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by zhanlili 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is not really fair to your boyfriend.
You need to talk to a doctor about your fears and see about getting on some sort of birth control. The doctor will know what is best for you.
I am glad that you know the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy - you are smart to think ahead.
2007-11-30 23:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on birth control! Cummon now...its free if you go to a clinic and you wont have to be so paranoid. Use condoms too then you should be in the clear.
2007-11-30 23:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nudie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going on the pill. It will also regulate your periods. I hope you aren't getting him all hot and then telling him no. That is so mean. I hope you are at least finishing him off in some kind of form. Get the pill and be like rabbits.
2007-11-30 23:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by littleme836 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get on the birth control pill and have him wear a condom.
You will be 99% protected then.
2007-11-30 23:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor, talk about your irregular periods, and change your birth control to something that helps straighten it out, maybe the Depo Provera shots. And condoms.
2007-11-30 23:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋