2007-11-30 14:49:15 · 14 answers · asked by your homies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When a new baby arrives, it is not uncommon for the husband to feel as if he has been replaced. The attention that used to be his is now directed toward the baby. It is important for mothers/wives to maintain a balance point between being a good mother and being a good wife. That does not mean that you should be a slave to both lifestyles. At the same time, he needs to realize the pressures of parenthood especially to the mother. All in all, he is a grown man perfectly capable of taking care of himself. The baby on the other hand is completely dependent on the two of you. He also needs to realize that the things the two of you could do together before parenthood have changed. Men need to realize that quality time can be spent together in the raising of the children. I could keep going, but it has turned into rambling already.
2007-11-30 15:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He just can't get over the fact that its not all about you and him any more. Its hard when you are busy all the time with a new baby. Try switching your nightly routine with him sometimes so you can get the rest you need to be able to even want to show him his attention that he misses so much . But first-
I would just suggest putting the baby to bed early and have a nice romantic night together. Bring out those cute panties and bras that have been put away for too long and have a great night! Though he does need to realize that you too do have needs of wanting attention other than from a baby. And you need to tell him that.
Communcation and Honesty is always best.
2007-11-30 14:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your guys lives have changed forever. If you want it to work, you need to both take the time for each other and keep it like it was. No, we aren't being big babies. Yes, we understand there is someone else in our lives that is more important, but we are still here. We still need your attention and still want us to have that relationship like it was. Women still expect it from us. It's about making sure that you two are still friends and lovers along with parents. I have endured years of my wife not wanting to make time for our intimacy. I don't ask for much, I think once or twice a month is not enough. I help her with everything around the house, in fact once I am home from work she has little to nothing to worry about. I take care of myself by going to the gym 3-4 times a week. It is hard for both sides and both sides must sacrifice and work at it.
2007-11-30 15:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the other answers are correct but I hate to tell you this and it is the last thing you are going to want to hear but basically he is telling you that he needs some "male" attention. Do what that one person told you and then the next day calmly sit down with him and go into negotiations. He will be in better spirits by then and you should be able to work it out. But don't just do one and not the other! Sexy nightie, good chat\compromise the next day. Otherwise you will resent yourself and him. Its about getting results. That's how you will get them. Good luck! :-)
P.S. This is coming from a female with 2 kids...
2007-11-30 15:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aha! All men have to go through this adjustment when a baby comes along. I am sure he feels jealous but he will need to be patient and wait until you are ready to really have the energy to make him feel special. But hey, he needs to be showing you attention too.
2007-11-30 15:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will keep this brief as enough has been said on the subject
WILL SOMEONE TELL ME WHO IS MAKING MOM FEEL SPECIAL, AND WHO IS GIVING MOM SOME ATTENTION.
Who has carried a baby for nine months, delivered, and most probably suffering from lack of sleep.
Sorry but I think he should be on his knees thanking you for the gift you brought in to his life, and he is very very lucky that you are crazy about him.You are to be congratulated
2007-11-30 15:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband told me this same thing one day. The next day, I put into action, a complete role reversal. He had to do the laundry, cleaning, baby chores, prepare menus, food, shopping, etc. At the end of the day, he asked me to please take my old job back and asked how in the world I get all of those things done on top of my 3rd shift job and 2 hours sleep. Bottom line is... he doesn't get that your body just went through a drastic traumatizing change and needs rest to heal that you are not getting by being up with baby. Tell him if he wants attention, he will need to pitch in more by getting up for those 3 a.m. feedings, more diapers and some cooking, cleaning and laundry.
2007-11-30 15:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I agree, guys are big babies, I know, I have one. My bf is saying the same thing. Even though they are babies, you gotta love them. Get a babysitter and just have alone time with him, even if it's lounging on the couch cuddling or something. You will probable need it to.
2007-11-30 18:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Translation in guy code "I am not getting enough quality sex"...
Its easy to let him know you are crazy about him. Put the baby to bed, put on your best nighty (or get another one), and rock his world in bed... Afterwards, tell him how much he means to you.... I can assure you that he will be all smiles the next day...
Good Luck!!
2007-11-30 14:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Try and include him in everything that you have to do with the baby, so he doesn't feel so left out.
2007-11-30 15:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋