i dont no what it is but i really d0 want 1. i w0rk 2 jobs & have a very supporting family when it come to anything. i babysit my 2 baby cuzin's alot, alot more then there with their mom & idk the feeling is really go0d.
2007-11-30 13:49:29 · 33 answers · asked by Bubbles 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's completely different raising a child than it is babysitting a child. I had my daughter at 18, and while she is such a blessing to me (she's now 6), I'm not going to sugarcoat it and say that everything was all wonderful. It wasn't. I worked many long hours (sometimes even working 3rd shift jobs) to make enough money to *barely* get by. I was living in a single wide trailer from the 70's and I did the best I could to fix it up, but it was no way to live.
Before having a baby, it's best to be married and with someone that you are willing to be with and get along with for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. My daughter's biological father and I have not spoken in years. He has nothing to do with my daughter. There was no "happily ever after", at least not in that relationship. It's best to be married and with someone that you love whom you can raise the child together with. (Luckily, two years ago I married a wonderful man who is my daughter's "daddy". It doesn't always turn out like this.)
Are you aware of the costs involved in raising a child? You have to have good insurance, it costs a lot to have a baby, and also for the MANY doctor's appointments. Do you have your own place to raise a child? A dependable car to get them around in? A can of formula is around 25 dollars. Babies go through one a week typically. Diapers are VERY costly and you need lots of them. Not to mention wipes, clothes, nursery furniture, swing, bouncey seats, a good car seat...The prices pile up fast! And then you have to think about as they grow....Food, clothing, school supplies, after school activities. Not to mention daycare!
Plus, forget about being young! Wanna go out with your friends? Can't do it, unless you find a babysitter, and they cost money and most people won't do it often. Plus, once you have a baby, you find that your friends aren't your friends.
Please rethink this. I know it seems like babies are cute and fun, but when you're running on two hours of sleep in a week, changing a diaper and stressing out, it's not so cute anymore. Wait until you're older, married, and REALLY ready.
2007-11-30 14:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
I personally got pregnant when I was 17, just after I graduated High School. My son is almost 9 now, and I also have a 7 year old and a 2 year old.
I would suggest you wait. I had to grow up real fast. Even if you feel that you are a responsible person now, you have no idea what sort of responsibility it actually takes.
I would try to let the feeling pass and possibly find something that you could do in your community or to help out others. Instead of being a stressed out young mother with no turning back, go to some of the parents of little one's that you know and simply volunteer to babysit for them. No cost involved. Just to give them a much needed break to run errands, relax, or take a bit of time for themselves.
There were times when I would have liked to have someone there to help me, but honestly my family had apparently gotten too busy. And my friends didn't have little one's to raise, so they too had their own lives to live. I didn't have extra money to pay for a babysitter just to "relax" so I didn't do it.
I think also by you helping out others in need, for whatever it is, the feeling you will get will help to tide off the "want" of a baby for a while. And in the end everyone will be much happier I'm sure.
Hope that helps!
2007-11-30 14:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for a growing young woman to have feelings of wanting a family. It's the way God made us. But for your sake and your baby's, wait until you are married and are really ready. Sometimes a baby can be wonderful in the beginning and then you realize how much work is involved and how much of life you miss out on because you are a mommy now. That can cause resentment and even anger toward your child.
Spend some time figuring out where you want to go in life before you have a baby. If you decide that being a mom is all you want then go for it.....just wait until you are ready. I felt the same way you do when I was 17. I always wanted to have a family and stay home with my kids. It is a wonderful job, but a very hard one. There are just some of us that know it from and early age and there is nothing wrong with that!
2007-11-30 14:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
What if your baby is autistic, has down syndrome, or is blind or deaf?...
I used to work with children like this, and always assumed kids born like that only come to certain parents... but you know what I learned?... those parents were as normal as anyone else when they had their baby.
If you are ready and willing to accept any baby even if it has problems, then you know that you are really ready for a baby and not that you just think they are fun.
by the way... once you have the baby, there's no turning back, it will always be there. You are young and still have a lot you can do, but once you have a kid, you can't just go out and play whenever you want. You really don't have the freedom. . . . unless your Britney Spears & a bad parent.
2007-11-30 14:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is you sound exactly like my cousin and let me tell you how that ended up. She tuned into a college dropout, she was divorced by 19, she now has 2 babies she raises alone because the guy is a loser because she got with the first guy she could think of and got herself prego because she sounded exactly like you! All she wanted was a baby and instead she got prego at 17 with twins, she is a cashier at a restaurant and gets her welfare check every month and she will do that until those girls are old enough to leave home. You need to grow up, get a college education and find a solid career and a husband and then think about it, who cares if it happens 10 years from now, just do it smart!
~~Melissa
2007-11-30 14:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um you can not even write a question correctly. You really think just because your family is supportive now, they will still be supportive after you mess up your future. Just because you babysit, you think you are ready to have your own child. Trust me, it is not that easy. You are only 17! Slow down, enjoy your life. Stay in school, plan a future. Get married and then have kids. Do not rush into having a baby.
2007-11-30 14:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey its not as easy as it looks. when you babysit you do not stay with them 24 07. i started when i was 16. when you become a mom you become a teacher, doctor,bank,friend,fighter,servant , the older they get the more you have to know,what you do not now you have to take your best shoot. money is important the first of all things. you must love them no mater what. there well be times when you are sick or alone or do not have money. or you want to be with your friends.good times and bad times. don't you go to school? yes people can help you but then you gonna be just like your cousin. leaving the baby with other people. you have alot of years ahead. take your time. do it step by step. your time well come in time. build the money you need for a child and read alot of books on how to be a perant before your next step. i hope you sleep on it. and if your ready then god bless you. wish you the best.i hope i helped you.
2007-11-30 14:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by RUBY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 years old with a 3 month old baby. Dont do it! I thought things would be completly differfent than what they are! I never thought about the small things like what happened if my daughters father and i didnt stay together! I never thought about how i would feel to see another women who i hate holding my daughter! I hate sharing my daughter but i have to!!! I worry about her constantly! You will NEVER sleep the same... and i know that doesnt seem big now... but it is! I really am trying to tell you all the negitive things so you wont do it...however there are a lot of positive things...think it through...
2007-11-30 16:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait till you have a good husband and are married. It works out better if you are married and you truly love each other. Your only 17 too. If you want a baby I suggest you go and find someone spend time with them get to know them and go from there. Babies are nice. Have them when you can take care of them though. There is no reverse for a baby.
2007-11-30 14:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my baby At 17 she is now 7 months soit was really recent i was just the same as you i finished school but now i can't go to school or get a job becasue the baby needs me i don't party ot go to the mall im home 24/7 and it's really not all that good
2007-11-30 14:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋